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I sometimes think about how other people have less happy relationships than mine, and that makes me sad for them

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[โ€“] GiveOver@feddit.uk 4 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Did they not love you before you got married? Only thing that changed for me was -ยฃ10k

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[โ€“] cRazi_man@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Glad it's worked well for the original OP.

I still remember reading in the book "Thinking Fast and Slow" and the research they presented on happiness. Apparently their data averaged out to: 1. baseline happiness when single, 2. big spike up in the first year of marriage, 3. Settles at a permanent level below the baseline (from when single).

The main problem is that making a happy marriage stay happy takes a lot of daily work. Thankfully my parents showed me how to do that, and more importantly my dad showed me how to make it fun.

[โ€“] criticon@lemmy.ca 2 points 23 hours ago

A lot of couples stop dating after they get married, it seems they just want to go through a checklist

[โ€“] cRazi_man@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

Your dad sounds wise. Knowledge like that still isn't widespread, and back then even less so. There are no role models teaching/showing/demonstrating this in real life or in media that I have come across.

[โ€“] yessikg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Does that book mention that married women die earlier?

[โ€“] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Which is patently untrue, on average married women live about 2 years longer than unmarried women

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[โ€“] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 1 day ago

Aww so sweet <3

[โ€“] Cris_Color@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago

This makes my heart so happy โค๏ธ

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