I still remember reading in the book "Thinking Fast and Slow" and the research they presented on happiness. Apparently their data averaged out to: 1. baseline happiness when single, 2. big spike up in the first year of marriage, 3. Settles at a permanent level below the baseline (from when single).

[–] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

The main problem is that making a happy marriage stay happy takes a lot of daily work. Thankfully my parents showed me how to do that, and more importantly my dad showed me how to make it fun.

[–] criticon@lemmy.ca 2 points 21 hours ago

A lot of couples stop dating after they get married, it seems they just want to go through a checklist

[–] cRazi_man@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago

Your dad sounds wise. Knowledge like that still isn't widespread, and back then even less so. There are no role models teaching/showing/demonstrating this in real life or in media that I have come across.

[–] yessikg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Does that book mention that married women die earlier?

[–] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Which is patently untrue, on average married women live about 2 years longer than unmarried women

[–] yessikg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 12 hours ago

Well, that depends of which study you look at