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I'm currently struggling to find my home. I have an account here at lemmy.ml, where most of my posts are, and one at kbin.

Why do you think your instance is the place to be?

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[โ€“] Skooshjones@vlemmy.net 2 points 2 years ago

Randomly came across mine. Was gunna join a larger instance just for testing, but it was right as the big Reddit rush was happening and my signups kept failing.

So I went with this one.

[โ€“] wumpus@latte.isnot.coffee 2 points 2 years ago

I was told it was better for load balancing if we didn't all use the same one. So I just looked for one that had easy signups and didn't seem overeager to block stuff. Apparently, some from this instance come form /r/china. I'm not, but I do drink coffee. Anyway, I think it's working out so far; better than reddit anyway.

[โ€“] SinJab0n@mujico.org 2 points 2 years ago

I actually made my home in the one hosting a previous reddit community I was fond of, just choose one u like.

[โ€“] sleepyTonia@programming.dev 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I tend to hang in indie game development subreddits and didn't want to have to deal with confrontational trolls on a regular basis, so programming.dev felt like a relatively safe choice since it's neither a super large server or a general-purpose one. I just wanna make lil' games and have little patience for those lacking in empathy and maturity.

Programming.dev represent! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

[โ€“] ram@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 years ago

I went with lemmy.ca because I figured it'd put me in proximity to Canadian Political discourse.

[โ€“] unix_joe@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 years ago

SDF has been around since the 1980's. It is one of the most historically trustworthy institutions on the Internet.

I've been an SDF member since 2001.

So it just made sense to use my community's instance of Lemmy, since I also use their Pixelfed and Mastodon.

[โ€“] hotdogcostanza@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

lemm.ee said it was newcomer-friendly and I was a newcomer so bingo bango there I went. I suppose I can always join a different instance if I need to but I'm still just getting a grip on this place so I'm good for now.

[โ€“] Denaton@programming.dev 1 points 2 years ago

I chose programming.dev because i am a programmer and developer.

[โ€“] Zifnab25@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.

[โ€“] Z______@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I was a bit confused at the start and in my haste created a few different accounts across kbin, lemmy.world, and Mastodon. Worst case scenario I have backups and I'll just end up using the instance I prefer the most, the most.

[โ€“] KiranWells@pawb.social 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Was looking for a furry one, and pawb.social seemed to be well-run (since it was related to a couple of decently-sized Mastodon servers) and was generic enough (and not NSFW focused). There also seemed to be a decent number of technical people there as well (in fact, one of the Mastodon instances is furry.engineer), so it matched up with my other interests as well. I considered lemmyrs.org, but ended up not choosing it.

[โ€“] LapGoat@pawb.social 1 points 2 years ago

same, went for the furry one.

[โ€“] Entropywins@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Kbin because it was the first one that actually let me register and didn't freeze

[โ€“] dan@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Seriously, this. I tried for days to register on Lemmy. One day I was mid-registration and the button was just spinning, doing nothing, so I came over to kbin, registered and started using the site. Lemmy never stopped spinning. No thanks.

[โ€“] dan@upvote.au 1 points 2 years ago

Nice username :)

[โ€“] hotdogcostanza@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

It was doing the same thing for me but I checked my email and there was a verification, once I completed it my registration went through. It didn't actually tell me it was sending an email which is probably a flaw but it seems that's the missing piece.

[โ€“] ganksy@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago

I chose lemmy.world solely on the fact it had a lot of members. Lemmy.ml was a contender too. I just wanted to jump in and check things out. Knowing (slightly)more now, I don't think it was a bad choice.

[โ€“] TanknSpank@kbin.social 1 points 2 years ago

This was linked on some post about alternatives to that other site I want to stop using. And honestly I'm quite confused on the "it doesn't matter/it does matter" so I'm just rolling with it and not trying to worry about it.

[โ€“] mdwhite999@vlemmy.net 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Vlemmy.net as it currently hasn't defederated from anyone or been defederated.

[โ€“] hotdogcostanza@lemm.ee 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm new here, do you know if lemm.ee has been defederated either way?

[โ€“] MaXsteri@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

The instances page on each instance shows the instances that it is federating with, and there's a section at the bottom which shows if ilthqt instance is blocking any others.

E.g. https://lemm.ee/instances

I don't know of any way to see if that instance is being blocked by other instances, except to visit the instances page on every instance individually. Which isnt really practical.

[โ€“] druppel@feddit.nl 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I picked my regional one (technically also better for latency)

Also better because if the admin bans you, you can find them in person and "discuss" about the ban. (such discussions usually involves fists)

(/s please don't actually commit a violent act lol)