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When I was 20 I was diagnosed by a psychologist with having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. At first I was in denial about but over time I come to terms with my narcissism and the diagnosis started to make sense to me. A lot of my problems can be traced back to my unrealistic self image and lack of ability to relate with others.

There's a lot of stigma towards NPD. I hope by making this thread I can help others understand that having NPD doesn't inherently make you a bad person and NPD hurts the person with it as well.

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[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 minutes ago

Thanks for making this AMA, I not too knowledgeable in this area so please forgive me if I am insensitive in asking this:

What kind of strategies do you employ to fulfil your need for attention, without acting rudely to others?

[–] Sunshine@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

How does it feel to admit fault or to apologize?

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

It's like admitting defeat. I don't remember the last time I said "sorry" to someone tho.

[–] Sunshine@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

If you want to practice with me, you can apologize for using Reddit if you have before.

I apologize for using windows in the past :P

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Why would I apologize for using Reddit? Or windows?

[–] Sunshine@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

They’re proprietary and less user friendly.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Shouldn't windows or Reddit be sorry for that?

[–] Sunshine@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

They would be if enough of their userbase switches to foss alternatives.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 hour ago
[–] VerdantSporeSeasoning@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

How does your lack of ability to connect manifest?

Do you feel connected to characters in books or movies/do their hardships affect you?

Are you doing any kind of exercises to change patterns around thinking/relating?

How do you feel NPD hurts you?

Last one, don't answer if you don't want, but what caused you to seek out professional help?

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 hour ago

"How does your lack of ability to connect manifest?"

Very superficial and short term relationships. It can be very isolating at times. I can connect to others but only if there really close to me.

"Do you feel connected to characters in books or movies/do their hardships affect you?"

They don't. There just made up.

"Are you doing any kind of exercises to change patterns around thinking/relating?"

Sometimes I think about others like there me. I know that sounds odd but helps me understand them. I try not to make everything about my self. I listen to others.

"How do you feel NPD hurts you?"

Yes, that's what I'm trying to get across in this thread. NPD is like a drug there's highs and lows. Sometimes when something good happens I just have this feeling that I deserve it. That I'm worthy but with that there's come downs. Sometimes things don't go to plan and makes me mad because how can I be wrong? It's hard to accept there's something wrong with you because you put yourself up on a pedestal and every mistake feels like your cracks are showing. You think that everyone else is as interested in you as you are.

"Last one, don’t answer if you don’t want, but what caused you to seek out professional help?"

I was having suicidal thoughts. I stopped seeing the psychologist cuz I lost interest.

[–] TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago (1 children)
[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)
[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 2 points 55 minutes ago (1 children)

I think they're making a jokey dig at their parent, who I assume also has NPD.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 2 points 20 minutes ago

I see this thing a lot. People think that anyone they don't like has NPD. I wonder how they would feel if a loved one told them they had NPD?

[–] inlandempire@jlai.lu 5 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for being open about it! How does it manifest? What's your experience interacting with other people?

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

No problem. I'm obsessed with how others look at me and I need constant validation and attention. I'm very driven by short term pleasure. I care more about the immediate validation and attention from others then long term relationships.

I found it hard to relate to others. Everyone else is like a secondary character or a NPC. I know this may sound bad but I found it hard to care about other people. I love my family and friends but it's hard to give anyone else attention.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 5 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

What's your relationship with social media like? Active selfie-poster?

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 hours ago

I use it a lot. I love when people interact with my posts or just comment. I can't get enough of it although that can be said for most people these days.

[–] Misspelledusernme@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

What do you do for a living? How does NPD impact your work? Is it beneficial or detrimental? I imagine there are careers that would be particularly suited for someone with NPD.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I'm a cook at burger king. I don't see how NPD would affect that. It's way more detrimental then beneficial as all the benefits are imagined. I don't know if any careers suited for someone with NPD.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I'd have guessed you might have been attracted to a job on-stage. Actor/musician/...

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 2 points 57 minutes ago

I can see where your coming from. Who wouldn't want to be famous?