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In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").β€Š Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful


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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Oh boy, a lot more people are pissed off by the contract offer than I thought there was. We're probably gonna strike

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

my wife woke up to go pee, so I asked her her favourite taxonomy fact. hers is that ants are either a type of wasp or decended from a wasp like ancestor (thee science is still out on it). and like it's true, you look at an ant vs a wasp and they do look really damn similar, especially flying ants

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Saw my favorite transfem artist perform today, and she taught the audience a powerful trick. Whenever you ever get misgendered as β€œhe,” witches cackle HEHEHEHHEHEHE at them.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

I cleaned my computer desk! Only took me 4 hours! Threw away manuals for like the headset I used in 2009 oh-shit Desk is looking real nice now though meow-melt

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

less than two weeks till I see my girlfriend :>

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

anxiety/sobrietyGot an incredibly gay lil' idea for a Halloween costume that might be cute but I don't have any event to go wear it to and I'm agoraphobic and like all Halloween parties involve booze for adults and I'm holding on to the metaphorical wagon for dear life

madeline-sadeline

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Found another white hair in my brush doggirl-gloom

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

need trans friends to cuddle

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[–] WertformProphetin@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm trying to learn German but whenever i check a German news site, the entire front page is bombarded with "terror-group Hamas attacks peaceful Israeli citizens."

It's fucking excruciating.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (12 children)

I held my tongue for so long but every time Julia Serano writes "hormonally female" or "physically male" my soul tries to exit my body. And then she hits me with the WELL TRANS WOMEN'S BRAIN STRUCTURE like wow.

I respect fully that the intent of this book is to analyse the ins and outs of being trans in the gender binary, but when she writes shit like "mtf spectrum" I'm sitting back and wondering if she actually read Gender Outlaw. Maybe the pre-2016 version is a lot less funny, but this cisnormative gendering of certain bodies and hormones is even less funny and I hate it absolutely to death. It feels out of place and eye-rolling in a text otherwise filled with many salient observations about the media's methods of subconsciously signaling the artifice of trans feminine gender, or just how much society both covets and devalues femininity as a whole.

Like how do you write the quote about "the acknowledgement that there are exceptions to every gender rule and stereotype" and then just write about estrogen being female. How cam you be so uncritical of cisnormativity as to use its language when writing all of this?? I mean, the text outright states that testosterone makes a "male" body and estrogen makes a "female" body.

This also makes me realise, if there's a specific piece of theory that lays out the destruction of cisnormativity regarding bodies, hormones, etc I haven't seen it. That one is to me homespun on forums and chatrooms.

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[–] ZoomeristLeninist@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

i aced my blood test! 3 months into hrt and my trough levels are 260 pg/mL for E2 and 30 ng/dL for T! i can def afford to down titrate, my T might be too low at my peak since it’s already rlly low at the trough. but i feel good! diy is so easy, who needs a doctor?

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

I went out yesterday in the most fem stuff I've ever worn out. Went to the park with my wife after dark. Was wearing a n95. For the first time, I wondered if I was actually passing.

I was holding hands with my wife, and another couple walked by, and for the first time ever, my first though was not, "what if they know I'm a guy?" Instead, it was "what if they think we're gay?"

I told my wife, and she said, "oh, I had the same thought, except I was hoping they thought we were gay!"

meow-hug

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Went to a queer meetup thing and it was so nice not having to talk to cishets for once. Main issue is I still have so much anxiety and after wards I just kept thinking of how akward I was

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Mission successful. God I'm such a fucking girl

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

No one gave even a shred of a shit about me being in the women's sections. I was assured that this would be the case but ohhhhh mahhh gosh it still tremendously surprised me. I went up to the changing rooms with some things and they were gendered (why??) and the person there could see that I was standing there short circuited. And they just said "just go wherever you feel the most comfortable." And so I did!

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

sad

spoiler Very very sad

Very very lonely

spoiler Want to talk so desperately

But cannot be vulnerable

spoiler People hurting hurts me

Im surrounded by hurt people

spoiler Im also a hurt person

I want to be taken care of

spoiler I want to take care of those im close to

I just want to be held

spoiler And told everything is ok.

Even if its just for a night, or even just a few minutes, I want to know that its ok.

spoiler I want to feel loved

I am loved

spoiler I just cant feel it.

I can never feel it.

spoiler I can love.

But no matter how much someone loves me, i can never feel it.

spoiler Im alienated from my self and my feelings of love.

Do i even love anymore?

spoiler or do i just chase ghosts?

I havent had friends last more than a year, maybe two.

spoiler Now im coming up on the time to leave again.

Everyone always leaves me

spoiler So i try to leave first.

I got close to them.

spoiler It was a mistake.

because now i dont want to leave.

spoiler but i have to.

its not safe to be close to people

spoiler its safest alone

but alone is lonely

spoiler i just cant find people who want to hear about my experience of life.

except i can

spoiler i just dont want to be close to them once they care about me

because it isnt safe anymore

spoiler i know its not real,

but everyone leaves

spoiler so i have to leave first.

That way i dont get hurt.

Goodnight

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[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

ventingi wish i lived in anything approaching a civilized society where it would be acceptable to take off at least a couple of years to work on healing trauma rather than having to somehow juggle that with the stress of every day life under capitalism with a brain that has a horrifically low tolerance for stress

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

sadly holding a bag of bread in the checkout line

"this isn't what i wanted when i said i wanted to get bred" deeper-sadness

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

If I could bend reality to my will I would turn every straight piece of RanAka fan art into yuri when I see it.

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

New trans mega! Last night I was at a restaurant and I sit down and in the corner of my eye I see this girl. I look over and it's fucking ME!!! I was sitting near a mirror!!!!! I then sat there admiring my hair for helping the corner of my eye to gender me correctly

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

shout out to trans therapists

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[–] Mousy@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

Kinda sus that pianos have 88 keys

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

yesterday i threw out my back falling up stairs and today i wrecked my ankle going down stairs

it's clear. this town ain't big enough for the two of us. one of us has to change. some third, appropriate cliche.

god i hurt

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

Might have less hair on my lip than both my sisters at the moment

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

i'm eating notifications and they are delicious

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[–] Anvil_Lavigne@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (10 children)

"so you're a lady, huh?"

-"actually i routinely rip farts so loud it scares our cats"

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

doing hot trans girl mechanic shit

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)
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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago

Mental health, burnout, family shitFeeling real yes-honey-left today

Lend me gay energy to take care of myself instead of just burning myself out dealing with external problems

I feel like I'm trying so hard to improve myself and do so much for other people to just keep my dysfunctional family afloat and it's never enough and I never feel appreciated for it

It's like no matter what I do and how hard I try to get my shit together, I'm always gonna be treated like a dumb gremlin baby by my family even as they increasingly become incompetent geezers that need my help with simple shit that they're too lazy to do for themselves

It feels like I'm carrying them around in the Flintstones car and if I quit lifting it up and kicking my legs to keep it moving, the wheels are gonna fall off and that's gonna be all my fault according to them and I'll never hear the end of it. this-is-fine its-a-living

Anyways here's a cute cat pic

[–] Anvil_Lavigne@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

drought's over, shit's flooding horror @belligerentkitten@hexbear.net & i were in full crisis mode for a moment there

pls send any & all energies you can spare spirit-bomb blob-help cat-trans

e : for context this is a 300yo stone house

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

drunk cis woman was wildly transphobic to me and my gf in the supermarket:/ not particularly upset by it, but definitely went fight or flight and coming down from that is no fun, end up getting dissociated for a while. they're always with the sidling up and muttering under their breath, like say it with your chest coward. anyway proud of myself cause I chose to just say something dismissive and move us away and she fucked off to go antagonise other people in the supermarket(???). couple years ago I might have escalated to a fight so I'm proud of myself for making what I think was the wise choice, even if a part of me is unsatisfied by avoiding confrontation.

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[–] WertformProphetin@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Man I wish I could have known the public universal friend. Absolute ledg

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

wife and I made vegan sushi and onigiri. they're really good! (I say we, she did most the work)

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

I think you all deserve another post to look at

so here you goclicking for increased interaction doggirl-thumbsup

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 19 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (10 children)

sometimes this site is exhausting tbh. why is it that people here love armchair moralizing about other peoples’ decisions that don’t affect them (this is about the β€œeating slop” thread but i see it elsewhere too) without maybe considering that disabled people exist under capitalism too. i almost want to report that thread for ableism tbh.

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 19 points 2 weeks ago (16 children)

::: spoiler mental health meltdown, spectrum brain shit, trans shit, dysphoria, alcohol cessation, drugs

I think I overloaded and short circuited something in my weird brain from stepping too far out of my comfort zone

I got extremely sad and overwhelmed by realizing how acutely difficult it is for me to try and Have Fun and Be Normal and big crowds and noise make me really existentially weird and maudlin about how being surrounded by happy normal people make me viscerally feel Alone and mentally beat the shit out of myself for not already being in a better place in my life overall

Saw a trans woman there and I know it's bad to assume things about strangers but something about seeing how much of a Normal Woman(Trans) she seemed like made me extremely self conscious and feel incredibly grotesque and meltdown internally with "oh god why did I stay in denial so long, why didn't I come out in my teens and transition young, I'm doomed, etc" thoughts

I got home late and really wanted to buy booze and fall off the wagon and get blackout drunk but willed myself out of it and took a bunch of kratom and can't sleep and feel kinda sick and just totally burned out

Sorry for being like this and also sorry for apologizing for not being okay lmao

screm^AAAAAAAAAAA^

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Got nail polish so that's, cool. Problem is I fucked it up and didn't buy nail polish remover

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago

Viral on Chinese social media:

Transwoman frm Hunan beat up a gay man from Hong Kong in Changsha. She said because he called Changsha city poor and ugly. She called him short. He threw food in her face. She proceed to beat him to the ground

cw, her dress slides down and she doesnt have a bra, the absolute queen 07

i saw this and all i could think of was "bussy pass denied" michael-laugh ~i'm~ ~sorry~ ~that~ ~was~ ~awful~

[–] SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

When you're watching a random early 2000s action movie that's on TV, and out of nowhere...

Transphobia, chaser nonsensetwo characters talk about watching porn, with one them saying he's getting tired of watching women on women action, to which the other responds that maybe he should try (insert porn slur popular with chasers) porn. cringe

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