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First of all, this post got me a bit worried about your mental health, is it possible you are under a lot of stress lately?
You are expressing something that I have been thinking too lately. Third parties, aka recruiters in this case, cannot be impartial if they are paid by one of the parties involved.
If you have an issue with your employer, you don't go to the HR, you get a lawyer. A person fully representing your interest, equipped with the knowledge to actually do that.
I think the same should be the case for employment seeking. It's not that you cannot build a network of colleagues, keep up with market trends, navigate legalities, and identify whatever new bullshit benefit companies are offering. But, delegating this job to a person/entity that specialises in it would most of the time be better.
Last but not least, I don't think the term recruiter is appropriate, and I believe transitional recruiters are not going to be willing to help you.
Best wishes on your effort!! Please keep us to date, I am interested to see where this leads!!
Thanks. I already know my mental health is in the tank. Has been since I started my career. I've lost count the number of times I've been fired (and learned from each one), but that has trained my brain to constantly be in a state of "I have to do a 1,000% percent job at this new position so I don't get fired." But then I end up getting fired anyway because I burn out. Add in the fact that I often spend months or years without payable work the stress just keeps stacking. It's not like it's a sudden stressor like the death of a loved one. It's an "undefineable" stresser that you can't quite get across to people who have been able to steadily work with a company for years without a fear of losing it.
The only way to break the cycle is the shout out the noise and aim for exactly the position I'll thrive in, to where my flaws won't be grounds for firing but will instead be what makes me "me." I've been told all my life I'm flaky, I don't listen (more of a processing disorder thing instead of a moral thing), I'm too creative...I've heard it all, and I'm sick of it. Since nobody is telling me I'm valuable, I'll say it myself.
My aim is to be an inspiration to people in my boat. That you can be labeled a "failure" by society but come out of it a winner.
I will not quit until I've made other people around me successful (with me joining along with them, of course).