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Sure! It will be uncomfortable at first, and you will face some difficulties at first. The hardest thing is to build a friendship. But once you're actually friends with someone, that's your chance to fully dive in. Just be sure to learn and recognize any of your own unconscious biases and leave them at the door. Can't realistically expect anyone else to accept you if you don't do that first (this is for everyone. We all have these, which is why it's important to recognize them and lose them)
I understand not all locales have this advantage, but I was fortunate that Boston often had festivals organized by these communities. If your city has any, go to them. Go to concerts, bars, community events, religious gatherings if you're into it, or any other event where you can more easily interact with people. All it takes is to build one meaningful connection and then your network will naturally grow.
Ah that's the thing, I'm in the opposite situation. I live in San Francisco, so I have more cultures than I can shake a stick at just in my immediate friend and coworker circle. My closest coworker is Tunisian, my roommate is Chilean, the guy I volunteer with is Estonian, the last girl I dated was Korean (all of which, meaning, immigrated to the US from those countries, not my ancestry is from so and so)...as I mentioned in the OP, I grew up in a very Black community...and yet, my closest friends are the most Starbucks white you can imagine.
Opportunity is not the issue. It's the actual diving in. The familiar is comfortable.
Ahh, I see. Well, it's natural to congregate to groups you're similar to - no one likes feeling uncomfortable. But a couple months of being uncomfortable is what it takes. Find some sort of common ground and work from there. Even if you remove any biases of your own, there are those who won't do the same for you. It isn't right, but it's understandable. If someone doesn't reciprocate any meaningful interest, move on to the next person. It just takes persistence and the desire to interact with other cultures. As I mentioned in my post, building stigmas and unconscious biases down the road often happen because there's little to no real personal interaction with other groups. Not saying you will, just something I've noticed in people through the years, no matter how well-intentioned they may be.
Excellent point. Maybe I can think of it like inoculation against bigotry.