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Thoughts on having more than one non-barriered sexual partner (mtgzone.com)
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Hello everyone. I recently learned there are a handful of people in my community who engage in non-barriered intercourse by default (sex with multiple partners without condoms).

I try to keep to only one non-barriered partner, to minimize any STI spread that may occur. Though testing is important, there are risks that 1. A test may be wrong, and 2. An infection can be introduced and spread after a successful clean test.

Also, my partner has a history of getting BV if her non-barriered partner(s) have other non-barriered partners. So, we keep it to only one non-barriered partner (for intercourse).

Any thoughts on this? Is it ethical to have more than one? Is it sustainable to only have one?

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[–] punkisundead@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 year ago

I think that really depends on your own risk preference. I personally would not want to have unprotected sex with someone who as a default has sex without barriers and I might need more precise communication how we would practice safer sex. If its relevant think I would also want to talk about contraception and how they would deal with (unwanted) pregnancies in their relationships.

But I dont see anything unethical about this assuming this happens in the context of informed consent and without weird power inbalances.

Is it sustainable to only have one?

I think that really depends on you and how you want to go forward. I can see how this might become an issue in situations where having barrierless sex is important in more than one of your relationships.