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Things Straight People Can Stop Saying
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this post was submitted on 05 Jun 2024
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Wait, what's wrong with saying "that's gay"?
By using "that's gay" as a negative, there is an association that gay=bad regardless of context. I don't feel that way but I understand other people's perception of the phrase.
So it's not really about saying it, it's about stopping thinking that it's somehow negative.
But of course I was being 80% ironic with my original comment. I was simply implying there's nothing inherently wrong with saying it.
I think also the context genuinely matters. As a straight male, I personally would use “that’s gay” to point out something that is not mainstream normal, yet cool or cute; possibly even kitschy.
saying it in a derogatory way or as an insult
But how can it be used in a derogatory way? Just because the user thinks it's derogatory doesn't make it insulting.
LMK if I'm being too logical here.
It used to be a standard thing that young people said to express disapproval.
"Ms Johnson said I can't make up the homework I missed because I forgot my bag yesterday."
"Sorry bro, that's gay."
I haven't encountered that IRL, but when I see that on the internet, I just assume it's being used ironically.
its the intent yeah. people using it in a derogatory way means they think gay = bad