Thinking for herself is a requirement in the industrialized world, since adulting is a subset. Maybe there's a farm that raises gentle ladies-in-waiting with only domestic skills the way we train service dogs to help disabled people, but such women are not found in general society.

Also, not thinking for herself makes her unemployable in a society where all adults are required to earn a living (which often takes more than one full-time job). So this requirement implies the guy is rich enough to afford a family on one income.

In short, like the 1950s man, he's not looking for a date or a wife. He's looking for a household appliance. Kenmore will sort him out.

As for ~~the rest of us losers~~ working class guys, real women who think for them selves and can adult are an asset and a keeper. Heck, if they can think for us too, sometimes, that's a bonus.