Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
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!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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I think that part of the problem is that people tie their identities to labels.
When someone says "I'd rather encounter the bear than a man", some people will say "I'm a man, and that means she's afraid of me (personally)"...and go on to have their feelings hurt by it because it's interpreted as a judgment of who they are as an individual.
Honestly, I think a big part of it is ignorance of women's experiences and a difficulty with perspective-taking.
Maybe men aren't as statistically dangerous as bears. If they aren't, why are women afraid? There are reasons for that.
I can imagine some men extrapolating from this and wondering "How can I ever approach a woman if they're all afraid of me?"...but the answer is "NOT alone when she's alone in a secluded spot in the woods"...
If the question was "Would you rather encounter a bear or a man at a board game café?", you'd find a lot fewer women hoping to encounter a bear.
Context matters.
I said ok, her choice and moved into the next meme/story.
I must admit to not understanding the furore that then arose and don't know why men (am a man) were getting butt hurt. Why would I care if women prefer the company of bears in the woods.
I'm glad that you didn't take it personally. I still think it's important to understand the reasons why women might generally prefer the bear.