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Sheesh. There's a lot of weird ideas in this thread.
I made a lot of mistakes in my teens and 20s, including but not limited to my poor choices in romantic partners.
If it was culturally appropriate, it would've been great to have some help.
I think there's still a big difference between getting help when dating and getting an arranged marriage
Not really. It depends on what is meant by "arranged marriage".
I mean, yeah, but what's the point of calling something an arranged marriage when it's actually just parents acting as an old school dating app
Obviously because parents behave differently to dating apps.
But then it's still just arranged dating at best. Maybe the parents look for someone who is interested in entering a marriage in the first place, but that doesn't make it an arranged marriage IMO.
It's not dating exactly, but there are dates involved. The parents pick someone that you're intended to marry, they bring them round and go "here, we think you should marry this person". You get chatting with them, go out for some dates, in the modern age you're probably texting each other etc, but it's not like western dating where you're just seeing how it goes, you're deciding if you want to marry.
After a short while you would say 'yup, this seems good'.
I mean I'm aware that this isn't like western dating but it's still not an arranged marriage. Saying that this is an arranged marriage is like having your parents pick out a hairdresser and calling it a haircut.
I think you're confused. That is arranged marriage.
Amazing.
Yes, language is subjective, cool that you seem to be learning that today. So no argument as to why it would actually be an arranged marriage, despite the described scenario not necessarily ending in a marriage?
Sorry mate. You don't seem very bright. If you look back through this comment thread you're the only one talking about dating and whatever. I said it's subjective several comments ago.
Yes you did, and when you said that, you implied that "arranged marriage" could also mean getting help with dating. You never mentioned dating explicitly, but how else do you think your original comment should be interpreted?
You're getting personal now, which is a telltale sign for someone who has no arguments for the point they are trying to make.
You're dramatically overestimating how much I care what people on Lemmy care about arranged marriage.
It's nice when you get some help, but ihelp in the form of aomeone being forced to be your little house slave is weird as shit
That's the thing though. An arranged marriage is not necessarily a forced marriage. If everyone is an enthusiastic participant then where's the harm?
I didn’t grow up in one of those cultures, but agree, there could be advantages. Notably, younger people are likely to focus on physical attraction, whereas marriage is a life long partnership that requires a lot more. Family can step back a little to pay attention to other compatibilities. Family can start from a position of knowing both participants, rather than meeting someone completely unknown. I don’t know how it usually works, but it could. As long as it’s not forced, the goals are for the peoples happiness, the participants have a veto, I can definitely see advantages.
As a nerdy, introverted, shy, guy, bring it on. I have plenty to bring to a relationship, but not in finding someone to relate to
Then what makes it arranged?
Family assisting with attracting and selecting a suitor.