this post was submitted on 20 Jul 2023
177 points (94.9% liked)

Ask Lemmy

26903 readers
2403 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions

Please don't post about US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

I stopped drinking alcohol some years ago. Before that I hardly consumed any alcohol at all for many years, but in my college years and maybe some years after that, I drank socially like "everybody else". But I gradually kind of got tired of dealing with the bad feelings (physical and emotional), so I drank less and less.

And maybe because I drank less and less, even one beer often just made me feel kind of bad, so then I just stopped altogether. Anyway, I'm curious if this has happened to anyone else? And how do you go by it socially? What do you order at a bar? Maybe I'm a little afraid to go to places that has an "alcohol culture", even if there are some places I would like to go. I don't want to drink, but at the same time I don't want to appear weird about it either.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] seansand@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The exact same thing has happened to me. I still have a beer every now and then (like once every two months or so). I pretty much can honestly say that if I drank any less, I wouldn't drink at all.

I've never been that much of a drinker, but once I reached my forties, having a beer or two would invariably mean that I would need to take a nap a few hours later, and I just don't need that interfering with my day. And I am cognizant of the recent studies have shown that there is no health benefits, only detriments, to any amount of alcohol at all. And add that I would pretty much always prefer the taste of a diet soda to a beer on almost any occasion, I've pretty much almost completely phased out alcohol in my life.

It helps a lot when most of your friends don't drink much, either. That said, does any one else really care whether you drink or not?

[โ€“] guybrush@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

My friend circles do not really care, or at least I hope they don't. Most of my friends drink very little as well. There was some semi-awkward discussions about alcohol politics at some small parties when I decided to stop altogether, but I think that was that.