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Of course not. I am the guy in long coat, hoodie or toque, big black boots, and face mask.
Crime rates have dropped massively, you're being driven into a panic by pro-police, racist media manipulation.
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Also by walking and breathing fast. I’ve been able to reduce my own anxiety quite a bit by forcing myself to walk and breathe more slowly.
We have a cultural acceleration of both of these body rhythms, and it’s part of the feedback loop that’s degrading our mental health.
The best part is, despite being difficult it is very possible to take control of these things. It improves our own mental health, gives other people’s brains more time to evaluate us before having to make a fight/chill decision. And when our own anxiety levels decrease, our voices get less hostile.
We’re all in this big soup of feelings together, and the whole soup is getting more anxious.
In my own experience working to slow myself down, it really takes a lot of attention and effort to alter these things that mostly run unconsciously, but the payoff is almost immediate.
I remember the first day I decided to walk slowly it was so fucking hard. I had to imagine pushing backward in my feet. It actually kind of hurt in a weird abstract way. But within ten or twenty minutes of that, muscles were relaxing around my chest and neck. Another fifteen minutes later, and I was admiring the beauty of everything around me, actually looking up for the first time in years and seeing buildings and trees I’d never noticed before.
Breathing slow, and walking slow. You can practice them one at a time, or combine them.
The more time spent applying attention and effort, the more effect. And the effects are incredible.
crime rates going down doesn't mean it's not still happening way more than it should. not sure where you live, but i'm in a big city and you definitely shouldn't walk around thinking everything is peachy all the time.
you can be vigilant with your own safety without being pro-police. the reality is that some criminals in the streets have a common uniform that non-criminals commonly wear.
if i'm walking behind a woman by herself on an empty street, i'm gonna cross the street because i understand that they're concerned for their safety, and i know women appreciate that.
since crime has dropped, should women not be concerned for their safety? are they being manipulated by sexist media and driven into a panic if they are?
Wow you really flipped that around, and even ended with a strawman. How are we talking about women and not hoodies?
You shouldn't feel bad for being suspicious of someone in a hoodie, but you should realize you are buying into pro-police, racist media manipulation exactly as the other person said.
When you can find statistics showing crimes by people in hoodies are as common a problem as rape and sexual assault against women, then we can talk.
Wait until you hear how many criminals wear jeans.
https://xtown.la/2019/07/30/suspect-wore-a-hoodie/
I’m equally suspicious about sunglasses and dark caps, but there’s no guilt there because we haven’t historically racially profiled people wearing that.
So I looked at your link.
The article seems to be about the fact that it's racially charged, and that people reporting it may be doing so out of racism
How do you read the first quoted bit, then uncritically present the rest of the numbers as being in support of your suspicion??
You missed my point that despite caps/hats being the next largest attire being reported, I don’t feel guilty being suspicious of it. I feel guilty about being suspicious of hoodies because I’m aware of racism. I am not suspicious of hoodies because of racism.
You’re incorrectly assuming I’m only suspicious of people in hoodies.
Just pointing out how ironic it is that your response to someone informing you that you are being manipulated by police propaganda is to... go find stats sourced from the police to argue that you feel justified agreeing with the police propaganda.
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That’s actually not what happened. I brought up stats that showed that police also report suspects in caps/hats, but I don’t feel guilty about that.
I don't think that pie chart shows that. Not percentages. Numbers of crimes.
Because if the stipulation is that it's just as reasonable for you to worry about hoodies as for a woman to worry about a strange man behind her (which is the only way the prior comment would have been relevant) I continue to hard disagree.
So then, you are already acknowledging that your reaction is from pro-police racist tropes. Where is the argument between you and I?
let's take it all the way back. you said i shouldn't be concerned because crime rates are down. i say that doesn't mean i shouldn't be concerned. it's all relative. i think it's still too high where i'm from and there are a number of "uniforms" that criminals wear, including hoodies. i am conflicted about being suspicious about hoodies because of racial profiling. i am not concerned about being suspicious of a person in a trench coat because there is no racist past.
we each have our own tolerance for risk regarding our safety, and not sure if you're a parent, but that tolerance for risk goes way down when you are protecting loved ones. you have a fair point about crime rates going down, but it's dangerous to lower your guard because rates have gone down a little.
I don't think I said this.
Overall my point is just - we all have our biases. If you feel guilty about being suspicious about folks in a black hoodie, and if bias against hoodies is likely to be of racist origin, your guilt is some portion of you being aware of that. If you weren't, we wouldn't be having this discussion.
It's OK to admit that, even if only to yourself. I don't think you should feel guilty about it. But I do think you should acknowledge what's contributing to that bias. We all have that in some way or another, and I don't think you can move past it while denying it's there.
I get what you’re saying, but in this case it’s the opposite. I’ll lay it out again.
There are multiple articles of clothing that are suspicious to me regardless of who is wearing them and how police treat people wearing them.
Hoodies are included amongst them.
Due to racial profiling of POC’s wearing hoodies, I feel guilty being suspicious of people in hoodies.
I’m also suspicious of people in trench coats, but we don’t racially profile people in trench coats like we do with people in hoodies, so I don’t feel guilty about it.
It could be anybody in a dark hoodie with the hood up that makes me suspicious, but if they’re a POC, I feel guilty because of police racially profiling people wearing them.
Does that make sense?
It does, and honestly I probably belabored this discussion far beyond what I had any reason to. Thanks for staying patient.
Nah all good. Appreciate the conversation. The media is never truly portraying the reality of our society, so important to use your own judgment.