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It was alright, not the best but I appreciate the encouragement.
I get where you're coming from, but I'd suggest a slightly alternative view.
While the sentiment may not be the same as if it came from a friend you'd not spoken to recently, etc, I would assume that when you're walking past a random person on the street, and someone asked you how you hoped that random person was, you'd probably be on the "well" end of the spectrum than the "not well".
In that sense, I don't think it's strictly correct to say the statement is disingenuous, but maybe more insincere. It's not a lie, or false, but the person writing it isn't expecting an answer of "well no actually my cat just died", nor in most situations would they take on the task of solving whatever ails the recipient.
So the view I'm suggesting is that while it may not be absolutely sincere, there is truth to the wish in a basic sense.
A good example of this is how British people greet each other with "alright?". It's just another way of saying hello, no one (outside your friends, and even then) are actually asking you to detail how you are. The expected response is "yeah, you?" and anything else really confuses people. It's like answering a knock knock joke with "fuck off" rather than "whose there?".
Does it make sense? No, not really, and it's particularly confusing for Americans because "are you alright?" is a phrase only used when you're seriously concerned about someone's wellbeing, which gets rather amusing when it's being used as a platitude.
Ultimately, I'd say it's better that humans relate in ways which are intended to be positive, rather than neutral (where we may end up dehumanising each other by acting like we are robots), or negative way (by being antagonising).
You don't have to agree, but I do think that it's a pretty innocuous thing.
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