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Me personally? I've become much less tolerant of sexist humor. Back in the day, cracking a joke at women's expense was pretty common when I was a teen. As I've matured and become aware to the horrific extent of toxicity and bigotry pervading all tiers of our individualistic society, I've come to see how exclusionarly and objectifying that sort of 'humor' really is, and I regret it deeply.

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[–] Calamades@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Very fortunately, I now work from home in a job with basically zero interaction with anyone at all (it's great) so this mostly applies to casual social interactions at say, a grocery store. I have to say though, using your suggestion in this context is actually hilarious and would be super gratifying.

[–] HughJanus@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Very fortunately, I now work from home in a job with basically zero interaction with anyone at all (it's great) so this mostly applies to casual social

What has the world come to that people are so happy to be hermits? How do you find joy in your life sequestered from society? Not hating, genuine question.

[–] camr_on@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not the guy you replied to but I'm fully WFH and I wouldn't trade it for anything. The amount of social anxiety I used to have working in an office was almost unbearable. I'm not sequestered from society or anything like that, I have a pretty active social life outside of work, but being forced to interact with co-workers in an office when I can do the same job from home just sucks

[–] Calamades@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago

I spend 9-12 hours a day working on a computer listening to audio on headphones. I am so glad my workplace decided to go fully and permanently remote. I can't imagine a situation where me being in an office would improve my work performance in any way.

However, my partner hates working from home and desperately missed having an office to go to during the pandemic. His company closed their office as well, so now he just meets up with his boss a few times a week to work at a cafe or something. I wouldn't mind that but I have a ton of peripherals I need to use in addition to my computer and the couple times I've tried it has been more irritating than anything else to lug everything around and spend 15 minutes setting everything up.

[–] Calamades@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, I don't think people being happy in self directed work from a comfortable environment free from the scrutiny and drama of coworkers really says anything at all about "what has the world come to." If I want to socialize, I do that outside of my work hours, and my work is far more productive and enjoyable without the constant interference and distraction of either coworkers or the general public. My experience with my past workplaces are my own, and I am far happier and have a much better quality of life without forcible socialization with people I would under no other circumstances outside of prison or a mass transport breakdown spend most of my waking hours around.

I am genuinely quite happy with my life. I have friends, family, a longterm partner, pets, a career that I love (that I believe does a genuine service to my fellow humans), money in the bank, and rewarding hobbies. I highly value my free time and like to use it how I see fit, instead of trying to wedge myself into social situations I don't find enjoyable or fulfilling. If that makes me a hermit, I am totally fine with that.

(Also just saying you may find a higher than average number of people who are introverted or value alone time posting on a relatively niche social media site with barriers to entry that require at least some level of computer savvy).

[–] HughJanus@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

If I want to socialize, I do that outside of my work hours

I see. I didn't read it that way.