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A lot of people think of forgiveness as something that only happens when the "offending" party falls to their knees to repent for their actions. They can't move on with their lives until they receive closure from someone who may not even realize they did anything that requires being forgiven for, and so these people often hold onto their hurt until it festers and becomes an obsession.
This is true.
This crazy rant actually contains a good example of this. Forgiving someone else who has wronged you, helps you more than anyone. Remember, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting what happened or "losing" to someone else. It just means you care less about it because you let it go.
Most therapists will tell you to forgive others for your own benefit. This is just a humorous and very obvious example. Taylor Swift doesn't know this guy and he is obviously creating his own problems.
Yeah I envisioned as much. It's almost like some people just don't know how to forgive and move on with life. Maybe they were spoiled too much when they were younger or something lol.
I seriously doubt Taylor Swift did anything to this individual, but taking things again at face value, you just forgive and part of that is just moving on with life. If Taylor Swift really did do anything, then be the bigger person and let her be the one who is miserable.
Sure, PTSD is awful; it can complicate many of these steps. However, a genuine attempt has to be made and this isn't it.
I think it's a cultural conditioning thing, they are brought up to think that forgiveness is an act of mercy, a decision to not seek to punish someone who has wronged them. That it is something that someone would/should ask for, rather than it being an act of letting go of negative emotions.
Being told they should forgive someone means to them that they are in a position of power and have been wronged.