this post was submitted on 16 Feb 2024
90 points (100.0% liked)
Asklemmy
43916 readers
1271 users here now
A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions
Search asklemmy ๐
If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!
- Open-ended question
- Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
- Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
- Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
- An actual topic of discussion
Looking for support?
Looking for a community?
- Lemmyverse: community search
- sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
- !lemmy411@lemmy.ca: a community for finding communities
~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~
founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Well, I'm almost 50, so I was an adult fully my the time my dad hit that mark, and my mom is seven years younger than him.
I actually know a shit ton about both of them at that age, more than they realize. Small town, and the nearest bigger towns are places I've worked, and I know a lot of people in the nearest city. So they got up to some things that they don't know I know lol.
They were divorced by that time range, though my mom didn't move out immediately. I had moved back in at that point as well, and tended to not be home much just to avoid each other more. This was before I bought the house (family home going back a good ways), and my mom moved out not long after she hit 50, to take care of her aunt in her late stage Alzheimer's.
Anyway, the area we live in is pretty rural, fairly low population. You really can't stay in the county and hope to keep things private. With me having been all over the tri-county area between working in home health, and bouncing in the city at some surprising places they didn't know about, I would hear stories within a day or two. Maybe not the nitty gritty details of all of it, but enough.
Thing is, for similar reasons (everyone knowing everyone in the area), I've always had a fairly good idea of what my parents were like at various ages. My dad's stint in the Army is a section that I only know about from what he's said, and my mom's teenage years were a bit murky because she was a navy brat and stayed off the radar of her parents, so all I have is her stories and my aunt's.
But the rest? I was either there, or know someone that was lol.