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I just feel like I'm intruding on a private moment and just sit there tense and embarrassed until it's over. Trying not to listen to the schlorp schlorp noises.

But it's such a common trope, I so assume I'm in some weird minority.

Does anyone find it enjoyable to watch? If so, why and how?

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[–] pulaskiwasright@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I really don’t understand how you can watch hardcore porn and then feel uncomfortable with kissing or sex scenes in movies. I can understand being bored by them, but I really don’t get how someone who watches hardcore porn could be made uncomfortable by kissing and sex in a movie.

Weirdly, it seems like porn has made people more prudish.

[–] dumptruckdan@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Because with porn you're watching it, alone or with a partner, for a specific purpose. When I'm watching a regular movie I don't want to sit next to my brother or my mom and watch that. Even if I'm alone I don't want to get all hot and bothered and then it's like, do I pause for a minute and go deal with it or sit and watch a car chase like this? Just imply it and cut to the next morning or something. Only time I'm cool with it is watching with the spouse.

Wonder if this depends on if other people are around.

One difference is normal such scenes are often in the second half of movies or sometimes even seasons into a show. So there's much more emotional connection to the characters and the setting is often much more private. Where with porn, often its quite quick to the sex with little good character development and you know going in that the point is to watch them have sex. Like, going to an orgy could be normal for someone, but like that doesn't mean they'd feel comfortable hiding in their roommate's closet and secretly watching them have sex.