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[–] Lunar@slrpnk.net 191 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Good lord the replies to this are sad. Believe it or not it's a perfectly reasonable expectation to only want to date someone whose core beliefs align with yours (and, y'know, actually respects your rights as an independent human being.)

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee 57 points 1 year ago

"in looking for a woman who will respect my core beliefs as an independent human being, which include not treating her like an independent human being"

[–] Syrc@lemmy.world 50 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As someone with a right-wing father and a left-wing mother: for fuck’s sake date people with your same beliefs. Deep disagreement on something like that is NOT something you can build a trustful relationship upon.

[–] RatMaster@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Holy shit, I can't imagine being in such a relationship even just for a small amount of time. Having kids with someone I fundamentally disagree with is just on another level.

I guess if you're not into politics/news at all, it can kind of happen. 🤷

[–] Syrc@lemmy.world 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Admittedly, we’re not in the US so the divide is much smaller, but Jesus Christ listening to them arguing over half the stuff that came up on TV has definitely not been a pleasant experience.

[–] CaptFeather@lemm.ee 35 points 1 year ago

This is what so many of them think. If they really don't have a problem dating someone left leaning it either means they get off on tearing down strong women or don't really know what they believe and are still just parroting mommy and daddy's beliefs.

[–] ryannathans@lemmy.fmhy.ml 19 points 1 year ago

There are a lot of trad women looking for these dudes, it's just that these dudes are often.. rather undesirable for other reasons

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (7 children)

It's fine to have dating preferences. The issue is when people who are just calling anyone who is conservative leaning terrible. If you don't agree with someone's political ideology, you should just respectfully disagree, not call them a terrible person.

Also, calling people evil for their options is a terribly way to convince them to change, it just makes them get really defensive. If you want to convince someone to change opinion, you need to have a respectful, insightful discussion.

[–] Lunar@slrpnk.net 32 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The meme here didn't even call anyone evil. That said, if you guys don't want to be called evil, stop supporting evil shit.

Conservative policies not only rob women of the rights to their own bodies, it gets them killed too. Either conservatives openly support this or they're somehow too naive to see what the politicians they vote for are doing, and both are good reasons for women to stay the hell away from them.

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just being conservative leaning doesn't mean you are far right, and agree with everything the conservative party does.

[–] WheeGeetheCat@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

what else are they doing that you're for? please be specific

[–] Marketsupreme@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago

I'm genuinely curious what reason someone has to support them. Like genuinely. I look at Republicans and am like how the fuck can anyone that isn't rich and in power be on that side? And then I remember the very potent tactics of fearmongering

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well it's a bit difficult to "respectfully disagree" when someone wants to take away my rights.

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Being conservative doesn't mean you want to take away people's rights.

[–] Marketsupreme@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Okay that's great you don't support that but the party you say you support is doing exactly that.

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't support any party. But I do support not attacking people based on their opinions.

[–] Marketsupreme@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

What are your opinions? Who is attacking you?

[–] BloodForTheBloodGod@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Conservatives aren't evil, but they are bad cooks, and worse lovers.

Conservatives don't clean their own underwear, and they cheat in CS:GO.

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That has nothing to do with conservatism.

[–] Marketsupreme@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago

I think they know that. It's a joke

[–] Ageroth@reddthat.com 6 points 1 year ago

How do you have a respectful or insightful discussion with someone uninterested in being respectful or having insight?

How do you explain the suffering caused by separating children from parents at the border to someone who doesn't see those people as human? To someone who thinks they deserve to suffer for existing in the wrong color of skin? At what point do you call a spade a spade?

[–] mathic@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

What if they're espousing, either directly or by association, terrible things? Is that not the appropriate time?

[–] omni_memer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Conservatives are actively supporting the oppression of LGBTQ people, however, and voting for far-right politicians

[–] democracy1984@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Not everyone who has some conservative opinions wants to oppress people and vote for far-right politicians.

[–] fugepe@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Bo7a@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 year ago

The comments under that vid are fucking hilarious. If I go any further left I'll fall off the universe, but I also live a self-reliant life in the forest where I chop my own wood, fetch my water from a creek, run and maintain solar installations, and treat my wife like the wonderful human she is. All while being the traditional provider and 'manly' man. My truck is big, because it needs to be when you are building a house and homestead with your own hands.

And all these parking lot cowboys in their spotless lifted trucks think that these values are 'theirs'. Get fucked losers.