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What's a good ratio of socialization with a long distance relationship suddenly closing up? (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 year ago by sincle354@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org
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I have a particular limitation when it comes socially. I perform fantastically in person, but I have absolutely no social sense when it comes online. My best opportunities are a board game night meetup and some chance meetups at an arcade nearby on the weekends. I am neither old, Christian, or a drinker, hence the limited interests in my area. I still feel socially stunted without a real close friendship, but I can withstand that for the weeks in between seeing my sweetheart.

Now, assuming they move in soon, I assume I should find at least some friends in earnest? I know we both can get emotionally vulnerable so we ought to have as many support sources as possible. He is my best friend, but I need more eggs and more baskets. I have yet to have other friends... ever, but I'm damn trying with my gaming groups.

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[–] ELLIOTTCABLE@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago

This is so frickin’ relatable.

I recently moved cross-country, leaving my beloved partners behind; and while I’m so much happier in my new location … I’m struggling to make new friends? Feels like a “30s problem,” because I used to have a vibrant, online scene of rich friendships … but now it’s just me, my dog, work, and a bunch of single-player videogames. )=

I spend most of my weeks looking forward to the next trip to/from my partners, and live as a completely antisocial shut-in, the rest of the time … which sucks, because I used to think of myself as something of a social butterfly! 😮‍💨

anyway idk hit me up if you wanna play multiplayer, complicated video games — factorio/satisfactory, complex systemic RPGs, literally anything that 1. takes more than a week or two to play and 2. isn’t single player? 🫠