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Define sanitary.
No body to body contact is truly sanitary in the strictest sense.
And, you're absolutely right that the proximity of the anus to the genitalia means there will be at least occasional stray bacteria reaching said genitalia.
However, because the non-STD bacteria that are the biggest risk with eating ass aren't as well equipped to last on the balls or vulva, and the vagina itself is moderately acidic, the risk of e-coli getting into your mouth in enough quantity and being alive enough to get past your immune system is lower than with direct analingus/rimming.
The butt cheeks are also a much lower risk, but all of the area is a non-zero risk without serious efforts akin to surgical scrubbing. Even that is only temporary.
E-coli can indeed be found in the vagina, on the vulvae, and on the scrotum. That's one of the reasons that you should always use a barrier during sexual contact. Even if you know someone is STD free, you have to be prepared for the inevitable cross contamination. If you're with a partner long term, that's inevitable, so you might as well just get it over with, but for short term or single encounter partners? Dental dams and condoms are cheaper than antibiotics.
Oh god I have been using the flat part of my tongue.
Gotta use the tip more. Not because of any risk, but because you get the job done better. You don't really lick when you're eating pussy, at least not for the entire thing. It's all about movement and suction being used in a steady, repeatable way, with just enough variation to keep it from becoming over-stimulating.
Even when you're working the clitoris while applying suction, you don't really use the flat of the tongue. You just use the first inch or so, the way you might if you were drinking from it.
Mind you, every woman is different, so there's no single "recipe" of what's going to work best, but most women tend to enjoy a ramping up of speed, pressure, and suction as they process through the arousal cycle. If you're licking with the flat of your tongue, it's really only going to work well in the very beginning, as a break for your mouth, or as a break for them between orgasms.
Using a barrier does make good technique harder, particularly with suction. But it can be done. And, tbh, if you're with a one night or other very short term partner, good enough is good enough. So you use the barrier and make up for it by being willing to keep going lol.
Oh I just wanted to get as much arsehole as possible in contact with my tongue. But thanks for the advice, I'll read it more thoroughly later.
Edit: that's an entertaining amount of detail, but I really do already know how to eat pussy. Hence ending up with a mouthful of piss, which I can resoundingly confirm is piss. But, I love her. I just meant I was eating her arsehole from the back.