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I'm an asexual, so if by that you mean classic, two-way bodily mingling, then nowhere besides my dreams, and I'm not even sure about that. I'm not averse to it, which is a miracle considering past experiences, but I don't look forward to it either.
I don't mean anything besides curiosity when I ask a problematic question. Do you dream of it?
As someone on the aphantasia spectrum, I have a weak relationship with dreams as is, but it does happen, and they do feature that, yes. If I am dreaming of something like that, it's typically for some kind of in-universe agenda, or if I'm dreaming of events resembling the second thing I mentioned above, there's a snowball's chance it's not a nightmare, but none of that has happened recently to my memory, as my piece of dreamland is preoccupied by things I miss.
Ironically, as an asexual who happens to have turn-ons (the term "asexuality" refers to attraction to humans, it can exist as a label even if attracted to non-life), I have actually tried often to build up my feeling of attraction by not indulging myself in the daytime, which in turn I hope would pressure my dream adventures into not being nostalgic. For brief periods, often it works, albeit you might say it's way more ritualized for me in my dreams.
Thank you for the insight
I am likely asexual as well and I only had a sex related dream maybe once in my lifetime. Never had sex either, although I'm not necessarily totally opposed to eventually trying it.