See I think that's the most important part and you hit the nail on the head. I transitioned 20 years ago and it was a lot different then. Nowadays everyone has the freedom to just be themselves, and people are getting too hung up on labels and pronouns. If everyone just pursued their own happiness and comfort in their own body, while ignoring the expectations put upon them by social media and society, they'd be a lot happier.

It's like these younger folks feel like there's a check list of things they need to do to "be trans". My brother in Christ just be yourself, and if you wanna call yourself trans in the process then more power to you. There's no rules to happiness beyond not hurting anyone else.

Tl;Dr "An ye harm none, do what ye will."

[–] Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 10 months ago

Thank you... Omg I really needed this comment today 💙

[–] HipHoboHarold@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Honestly, I've been feeling this way a lot lately. Especially with the labels and and pronouns part. I'll call anyone what they want, and I'm not gonna beleive they're not that, but some things are getting a bit ridiculous.

Like not to long ago I learned a new term, I don't remember what it is, but it was basically a word to describe somes sexuality when you don't know what their sexuality is. Like someone asks Bob what sexuality Greg is, and they don't know for certain.

But A) The term used an acronym for not/non and put it at the beginning of asexual, so it was not not asexual... or just sexual... I guess.

B) If someone asks, you can just say you don't know. We don't need a word to describe someone's sexuality as "I don't know."

I'm trying not to sound like an old person, and I do get why a lot of terms are uses. But it seems like every few months I hear about a new one, and it just seems like someone made it just to have a new term. I like that people are exploring and we are learning more

Other posts I've seen are things like "Can get guys/lesbians be gay guys/lesbians if they like non-binary people?"... Sure, why not? If someone wants to still use the term gay or lesbian, cool. If they think that puts them more towards bi to an extent, cool.

"Bi is transphobic, and if you would date trans people you're actually pan" Or they just grew up with the term bi, and that's how they identify. It's not an issue.

I'm just waiting for the day when I get called transphobic for being gay, which means I only date men and not trans men, so that I can point out that trans men are men, and we don't need to make it more complicated than just gay.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I agree with nearly all of your post except "being gay, which means I only date men and not trans men". That's completely valid that it is your preference, but many men identify as gay and do date trans men. They don't need to change their label or use another word to express that they are open to transmen.

[–] HipHoboHarold@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, I'm not denying those men exist. I'm just saying I wouldn't be surprised if some people start saying that like they do about people identifying as bi.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 10 months ago

Oh I understand you now