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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/4rvr on 2023-07-08 04:33:17+00:00.
MIL "organized" my craft room while we were on vacation. Then my husband lied to me to my face about it.
We moved into a new house a few months ago. I've still had many boxes in my craft room to unpack. My husband has asked me before if I wanted help with the room, and I’ve always said no, because I don't want anyone else messing with my stuff. I didn't have the moving company touch it and I intentionally packed it so that I could re-organize it whenever I unpacked it. It would be more difficult for someone who doesn’t know what they’re looking at to go through and try to do something with my stuff.  So, my husband decided it would be "helpful" to go behind my back and have his mom do it. I noticed it as soon as I got home. I asked him if he had his mom do it. He completely lied to my face and told me he hired an organizing company to come in. It's the most disorganized mess I’ve ever seen. I got suspicious a few days ago whenever it was so poorly organized that there were greeting cards in three different areas of the room. I decided to go through my husband's phone, because he kept saying it was this "company he found on Facebook." I was curious what "company" he hired and also wanted to verify if it was really MIL like I suspected. Sure enough, it was his mom. I actually don't know if she just decided to do it, or if he asked her. I’m seriously upset about it, though. I don't think I can post SS of their convo, but basically she asked about cameras in our house and was worried I would go back and see it was really her. He said not to worry, I didn't know how to use the cameras (I do). She said to make sure he sticks to the story of it being an organizing company because "later if you admit it, she'll hold it against me that I lied to her." He said not to worry and that he "would take the fall if she ever finds out."
So who is TA here?
I did go through his phone and got very upset and yelled at my husband about it so WIBTA here?
Sounds like he has zero respect for her