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Ok this turned into a novel, so buckle up I guess lol. Yeah, there was a lot said over the month that I pushed back on. There's nuance to it though, right? It's not like the manosphere content is built entirely on lies. Like, one of the first things that stuck out to me is him saying that when men lean into their masculinity then women can embrace their femininity. That can be true for some couples, but it's obviously not universal and is more often fluid.
He talked about his sister a few times, a psych major that I didn't know identifies as non-binary until he showed me their Facebook page by chance and I saw their pronouns listed. But he didn't care. He said they were "radicalized" after they went to college.
Another one: "choices have consequences" when discussing abortion, even though he did agree it should be available, it's just "morally gray" for him. His ex had one and he said he thought she secretly wanted him to push her to keep it. They broke up shortly after.
Anyway, most of the rest of it was just sprinkled in, and culminated in the conversation yesterday. It actually started the night before, I got upset and wanted to shut down the conversation cuz it was all really building up, but we repaired, went to hang out with our friend, and it wasn't until later it hit me he'd said that thing about men traditionally being the head of the household because they're more capable "if you look at the results." I dwelled on it forever after he fell asleep, journaled about it on my phone and had my responses ready the next morning.
Wow. Well I’m sure he’ll make some woman soooo happy one day (I mean, “woman happy,” so cooking, cleaning, churning out progeny, etc.)