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People that disrespect others time are not friends of mine.
I donβt care what level of important any person puts on something they planned. Show up on time or donβt make a promise at all.
"on something they planned"
Clearly didn't plan GOOD ENOUGH THEN. if they had planned, they wouldn't have overscheduled
That all goes out the window once you have kids though. You can't plan diaper blowouts, motion sickness induced car cleanup, meltdowns, suddenly needing endless snacks, ripping off all their clothes and refusing to get dressed, hiding their shoes, hiding your shoes, hiding your keys, napping late, napping early, ...... I could go on.
But then you're likely meeting up with other parents, and they get it, too. So it's not a big deal again. When a parent says they'll be there (with kiddos), they'll likely be somewhere between on time and an hour late.
Being a parent is irrelevant. All you have to do is text and say sorry this happened, be proactive not reactive. Something makes you late? Warn people you'll be late so they can get started without waiting around for you.
Yeah, of course. You text when you leave to say how late you're running, lol.
But you also never make plans to meet at a spot where kiddos can't play. Doesn't really matter exactly when you show up at a park or to a playdate at someone's house, right?
Uh no. It matters. If you tell someone you're going to be somewhere at a specific time, then it is rude to not be there at that time. The only way to make it okay is to call ahead and warn them that you will be late.
Even with a playdate like you said, the other parent may have food ready. They may have declined a different activity so they could meet with you. They may have left early from a different event, or even they were enjoying a TV program but stopped early to go meet with you. All of which if you would have called to say you'll be late they could have continued. It doesn't matter that you were meeting at a park, you put their life on hold for it, respect that they did that for you.
You have kids. Learn how to be on time, you're supposed to be the one who can manage the time for them, not use them as an excuse.