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Men gauging their worth based on if/how much they've had sex is such a fucking stupid concept.
Let's throw it away soon and replace it with something less toxic.
Men should base their worth on how many Pokémon cards they have collected
Finally a good take.
Fuck. I guess I'm a pokemon virgin and utterly worthless now
Same for women based on having children.
This may be a controversial take but some people suffer from overwhelming shame from not being able to have children or from having a miscarriage and are afraid to talk about it openly.
It can be traumatic and they deserve support but the whole concept is based on women's value as only for having children and they're a failure without it. We need to move past this as a society.
This is not a contest of men vs. women.
Not being able to have children ≠ not being able to get your dick wet. It's a much more personal and stems a lot from the choice of being able to have children being taken away from you.
This is a post about equating sex with self-worth and how fucked up it is for both parties.
I'm not saying its a contest! It's a shitty contest if it is. And it's not a exact mirror of course. It's just all part of the patriarchy and how it controls us.
Tied very closely with related mindsets like "men all only want sex", "men and women can't be friends", and the idea that life is basically a competitive game where the point is to promote your bloodline, acquire the status symbols you're supposed to want, and screw over everyone else.
Is it gauging of worth, though, or is it simply a statement? It's clear to me he has some unhealthy, incorrect attitudes towards sex ("prime teen pussy", wtf), however I can also relate to base feelings of "desperation" due to lack of getting laid.
I'm not gauging my worth at all; I'm worth enough. I'm secure in who I am, confident enough, etc. But I can observe that there's been no rain in the valley for 7-ish years & I can factually say, "This lack of sex fucking sucks".
Its still rampant in online discourse as an insult.
And that needs to change. Hopefully it will die out soon.