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Isn't the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I'm missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don't drink?

Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: marx-joker

Hmm, maybe it's the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage thinkin-lenin

Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn't say my favorite "The Office" quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I've never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I'm not doing labor for someone that I don't even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.

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[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

but also they are the only solution to the problem

"The solution to doing the thing is to do the thing" is not useful advice if motivation is the issue.

There really are better approaches that often require more personal consultation. Those are definitely more useful, if harder to come by.

and I don't see how telling them to try something they aren't passionate about right away is an insurmountable ask

Of course you don't. Because you got yours.

[–] usernamesaredifficul@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

look if you're just going to take the least charitable possible interpretation of everything I say I think I'm done with this conversation

this is very much starting to feel like this

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was asking you to be charitable toward the discouraged person instead of dishing out what is probably one of many "just do the thing you're discouraged to do" suggestions they had already received from people already doing the thing. But because you had yours, that was apparently unreasonable.