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(1 )Im trying to reply in a different tab but it isnt sending so im going to try on this one in smaller comments.
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Adoptee and biological family voices
-UK did a study on adoptions from unmarried women https://committees.parliament.uk/work/1522/the-right-to-family-life-adoption-of-children-of-unmarried-women-19491976/news/164944/ongoing-legacy-of-historic-adoption-practices-revealed-in-published-evidence/ -https://www.thenation.com/article/society/adoption-parenting-choice/ -https://www.inquirer.com/opinion/commentary/why-families-should-think-twice-about-international-adoption-20230831.html
Examples of adoption and family separation as a tool of genocide (many of the articles also includes adoptee voices on how they feel about their adoption)
-Children separated at the US and Mexican border can be adopted by white families despite them having families who want them. https://www.csmonitor.com/USA/2018/1009/Separated-from-parents-some-migrant-children-are-adopted-by-Americans -Korean adoptees are believed to be the largest group of adoptees. Adoption of Koreans made orphans and the mixed raced children resulting of US invaders raping Korean women started after the invasion and was increased under the US backed dictatorships of Park Chung-hee and Chun Doo-hwa. Many documents were falsified to make it look like the children were orphans ““The falsified orphan family registry was very much an integrated part of an adoption system that turned children into adoptive children.”” Informed consent was not provided, “researcher assisting the DKRG with its application to the commission, says more than 90% of the adoptees whose cases he is dealing with had at least one parent – and that adoption agencies failed to get informed consent from the biological parents. At a time when international adoption was not well understood, social workers “did not make it clear to parents that adoption meant not being able to see their child ever again.”” In a poor country, financial incentives were given for selling children “If the child was released to the adoption agency, “the agency would pay the hospital bill for them”, he says. Shin estimates that hospitals would have received the equivalent at today’s values of about £1,600 for each referred child. The small number of hospital workers involved would have doubled their annual salaries through these illegal schemes, he says.” https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/sep/28/korea-is-hiding-our-past-the-adoptees-searching-for-their-families-and-the-truth
(2) “Children of sin” born from Belgium colonizer fathers and Congolese mothers were taken from their mothers https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2021/2/3/the-children-colonial-belgium-stole-from-africa -The Sixties Scoop was used in Canada and the US to take Indigenous children from their families. An important note here is that the white colonizers are the ones who force poverty on Indigenous people then steal their children as punishment for being poor rather than providing reparations or financial support. They are then removed from their culture which leads to cultural genocide. https://indigenousfoundations.arts.ubc.ca/sixties_scoop/ https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/manitoba/sixties-scoop-americans-paid-thousands-indigenous-children-1.3781622 -The Romani/Roma face discrimination in Europe which leads them to being poorer and being investigated for child abuse more often with “Notably, the impact of preconceived conceptions and a social worker's view of the Romani community were noted in a research document known as the "Bratinka Report".26 This report found that 38% of social workers felt that the main obstacle to better relationships were the "unsavoury characteristics of the Roma."” Again the solution was to take their children and give them to white families rather than try to help the Roma. http://www.errc.org/roma-rights-journal/forced-removal-of-romani-children-from-the-care-of-their-families -During the dictatorship of Jorge Meijide in Argentina, pregnant women who were disappeared were kept alive until they gave birth. Then they were killed and the child was sold to a family the dictatorship approved of, “For decades, hundreds of children have been raised by the same people who were responsible for the torture and death of their biological parents.” https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2023/jan/16/tracing-stolen-children-of-argentina-dirty-war -In more recent news, the US murders an infant’s entire family in Afghanistan, while lying and claiming the father was a suicide bomber. The infant has living family members that want to raise her but a marine kidnapped her and the US is siding with the abductors as usual. Also important to note here that the US invaded Afghanistan, destroyed the country, then claims the child is better off with an American couple. https://apnews.com/article/afghan-baby-us-marine-custody-battle-b157557538b84b288a0a8415735e24ab
(3) -Ableism is used to justify taking children away from disabled parents in the same way eugenics was used to justify sterilizing them, “two-thirds of state child welfare laws include a parent’s disability as grounds for the termination of parental rights, meaning that a disability label can be used to demonstrate a parent’s unfitness.” https://www.theregreview.org/2021/10/26/powell-justice-for-parents-with-disabilities/
Who gets put into the foster care system?
-While, 9% of children are put in foster care due to sexual abuse and 18% from physical abuse, the vast majority, at 75% of children are put in the foster care system based off of neglect. Neglect which is often the result of poverty and both neglect and physical abuse rates decrease when families are given financial support. “Material hardship is associated with CPS involvement beyond caregiver psychological distress and parenting factors (Yang, 2015), and the association of individual factors (such as substance abuse or mental health) with maltreatment is reduced after accounting for poverty (Escaravage, 2014), meaning poverty alone is a driving factor.” Poor families are more likely to be investigated with the “Strongest hardship predictors of investigated neglect reports” being “food pantry use, difficulty paying rent, cutting meals, public benefit receipt, utility shutoffs, short duration of residence, and inability to receive medical care for sick family members.” No one should have to experience poverty as is, but to punish families for being poor by taking their children away, only to give money to the family that fosters them is not for the wellbeing of the child. -Lives and families can be saved with financial support “An additional $1,000 spent by states on childcare assistance per person living in poverty is associated with a reduction of 40% in hotline calls, 35% in substantiated maltreatment, 63% in removals, 50% in child fatalities due to maltreatment (Puls, 2021).” https://datacenter.aecf.org/data/tables/9906-children-who-are-confirmed-by-child-protective-services-as-victims-of-maltreatment-by-maltreatment-type?loc=1&loct=2#detailed/1/any/false/574,1729,37,871,870,573/3885,3886,3887,3888,3889,3890/19240,19241, https://familypolicynyc.org/2022/09/15/economic-hardships-research/
(4) -Who is investigated is also affected by racism, “One of the most striking findings in a recent study is that more than half of all Black children will experience a child-welfare investigation by the time they reach age 18—53%.” and this incredibly important paragraph “There are longstanding stereotypes that Black parents don’t really love their children, that it’s easy to separate the bonds of Black parents and children, that Black children are better off in the care of other caregivers—especially white caregivers. I could go down the list of all of the stereotypes that paint Black mothers as defective, as pathological, as neglectful, incapable of caring for their children. And those stereotypes influence people’s decisions about child abuse and neglect. There’s a whole slew of studies that show that doctors are more likely to suspect child abuse if the child is Black than white, with the exact same injuries. We could trace this back to the slavery era.” https://time.com/6168354/child-welfare-system-dorothy-roberts/
Sexual abuse and foster care
-While around 9% of children are separated from their families as a result of sexual abuse, “One study found that girls living in foster homes are a particularly vulnerable group. The investigation examined 155 adolescent girls in foster care and found that 81% had experienced sexual abuse. 68% of girls reported being sexually abused by more than one individual.” and “A Johns Hopkins University study found that children in foster care are four times more likely than other children to be sexually abused, and those who live in group homes experience an abuse rate of 28 times those of other children.” In addition to foster care increasing the risk of sexual abuse, there is no reason a child experiencing sexual abuse could not be removed from their abusers and placed in kinship or community care. https://helpingsurvivors.org/child-sexual-abuse/foster-care/
Family separation and queerness
-Children whose parents support them being trans are being investigated, the same system that determines what constitutes abuse is bigoted and will be used against any marginalized person. “Gov. Greg Abbott issued a letter directing the state’s Department of Family and Protective Services (DFPS) to conduct “prompt and thorough” investigations into the families of trans and gender expansive youth who’ve received gender-affirming care, asserting that the care can “legally constitute child abuse.”” In a way, this reflects on the previously mentioned examples of Indigenous and Romani children being taken away, because their ways of live (traditional native food, Romani camps) didn’t line up with that the white majority sees as fit, their children were taken to be “raised right.” https://time.com/6150964/greg-abbott-trans-kids-child-abuse/
(5) Effects of being raised by whites in all white areas
-Not seeing people like oneself growing up affects children's sense of identity and can give them poor self esteem. In addition to this, “Black children’s first encounters with racism can start before they are even in school, and Black teenagers report experiencing an average of five instances of racial discrimination per day.” Children of color, not “poc children”, should not have to navigate racism completely on their own with no connection to a community that can understand and prepare them for it. A white person choosing to buy a child of color does not make them less racist than any other white person and they often dismiss their children’s experience with racism as they make no effort to understand it. -White adopters also have no problem using transracial adoption as a shield against racism accusations or as props like in the Hart family murders. https://monroecountycasa.org/why-racial-and-cultural-representation-matters/ https://projects.apnews.com/features/2023/from-birth-to-death/mental-health-black-children-investigation.html https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2023/04/skinfolk-book-matthew-pratt-guterl-adoption-racism/673096/
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/05/us/hart-family-murder-suicide.html
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I am a queer adoptee. Queer people can have biological children. Queer people are not entitled to another person’s child anymore than a cishet person is.
“Narcissist” is not an insult, having a stigmatized personality disorder is not an insult and it is ableist to act like it is.
This is anecdotal and the options you dismissed for yourself previously like kinship and community care center the child while not forcing them to be with their abusers.
Bringing up parental rights in a discussion about the reproduction rights of marginalized people and the rights of adoptees is disingenuous and irrelevant. As mentioned, these groups are more likely to have their children stolen from them to be sold to white, wealthy people. That has nothing to do with right wing dogwhistles.
The majority of children in the foster system are there due to neglect that can be solved through financial support. The minority of children experiencing physical or sexual abuse can be removed from their abusers via kinship care as priority, community care second, and guardianship last as I said before. The adoption industry does not need to exist.
Marginalized people deserve reproductive rights. Marginalized people deserve to not have their children taken away as punishment for being marginalized. In the comment that started our reply chain, I said that adoption was a tool for genocide and listed the examples of Indigenous children being taken from their families and Korean children being sold as spoils of war. Yes, I do care about the biological families rights. I prioritize the rights and wellbeing of adoptees first, and biological families second. You see adoption as the solution because you believe the propaganda that most adoptees are either being abused or were orphans which is just not true. I hope you actually take the time to read the sources and listen to the people you claim to care about.