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Do you think monogamy will always be the main "form" of earth or do we just break someday this code and just "do whatever we want" (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by Violett_Queen@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe "team up" as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to "the upper class"?

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[–] Devi@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Polygamy just means that you marry more than one person. It's not related to patriarchy and there are many polygamous people around the world who are not patriarchal at all.

Polyamory means loving more than one person and can take many of the same forms as polygamy does, including patriarchal structures.

[–] ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I chose my words intentionally for the context of the post. I said 'often' not 'universally'. The post is asking about social acceptance and I was pointing out that polygamy already is socially acceptable in some cultures and where that's true it is often in the form of patriarchal hierarchy.

Also polygamy by definition is a hierarchy because there is one primary partner with many partners/spouses, but those partners don't have the same freedom to take on other partners. If they did, then that is called polyamory. Polyamory may or may not have hierarchy depending on the structure, polygamy has to have hierarchy.

[–] Devi@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Also polygamy by definition is a hierarchy because there is one primary partner with many partners/spouses, but those partners don’t have the same freedom to take on other partners. If they did, then that is called polyamory.

That's untrue. Polygamy just adds marriage to the equation, there's no 'extra rules' there.