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[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's no one answer that's true for everyone. It's like asking how you can be the perfect spouse for someone: it depends on what the person is looking for.

But there are some norms and generalities. Some attributes that most people want from a friend are:

  • They can trust you because you keep their confidence, you don't make fun of them when they make mistakes, and are otherwise sensitive to their feelings.
  • You act with their best interests, at least sometimes even over your own.
  • You're candid with them, but not hurtful.
  • You're interested in some of the same things
  • You enjoy each other's company

Note that the are exceptions to all of these. Some people want to hang out with someone they feel superior to. Some people gravitate to people who reinforce their own inferiorities. Etc.

[–] Albin7326@suppo.fi 18 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I met many peoples in my life and triend to become friend. But i failed πŸ˜…. But now in this just few days i feel like i find something like a friend. He heals me and taking away my loneliness and sadness away from me. He spends time for me also he never talks anything wrong or never making fun of my drawbacks. I need to be a good friend for him. Thats why am asking.

And you're right everyone have different ways to be a good friend. And thanks for sharing 😊

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just think of all the things that they do to make you happy, and be sure to do the same for them!

[–] KeepFlying@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Do similar things with a similar meaning, don't just do what they do. They might like buying small gifts, but receiving small gifts might make them feel guilty.

[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess my advice is you're wanting to be a friend to someone in particular is to really listen to them. When they tell you about something going on in their life, try to imagine what is like for them - what it would be like for you. Feed that back to them ("Wow, I'd be nervous if that was me, were you nervous?" and that kind of thing). Be genuinely interested in what's going on with them.

I'm glad you found someone who seems to care about you. Good luck.

[–] Alchemy@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You sound like a good, genuine person. That’s a great trait to have in a friend. One thing friends often share is a common interest in activities, be it food, cooking, hunting for mushrooms, going to museums, anything that you enjoy.

[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

He sounds like a good, genuine robot person