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If someone tells you no or you try and fail at something, life actually just continues on from that point, and you can try other things
In my very early life if I tried things and failed my parents would then try to help by offering harsh criticism and then a very tedious and didactic lecture. Made me unwilling to try to do anything.
In later life I belatedly learned that being really good at anything usually involves being really bad at it for a long time. Also, there will come a point where you don't suck at something and you will mistakenly think you have become quite good at it. You can still take pleasure from not sucking but be careful of overestimating your abilities.
tl;dr - It's ok to be bad at things, you have to be bad at things before you become good.