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You’re absolutely right that they’re are legit ok with whatever.
But as a person who does sometime prefer femme pronouns but for the sake of simplicity request they/them, I know that there are times when a person may be presenting in a way that reflects that they’re feeling gendered and that acknowledging that gender would result in euphoria. In general any pronoun is fine and they’ll never be offended by any particular pronoun, but if you want to be a good friend you can dig deeper and discover what gives them a sense of euphoria.
Aye good advice :)
If anything I'd go by what they're actively choosing to present, i never do that guessing game of assigned at birth.