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  • poor leftists talk about poverty, labor aristocrats get uncomfortable and insist that sociological classes aren't materialist. "all that matters is that we're working class - we're all in this together"

  • black leftists talk about racism, whites get uncomfortable and insist that they're not personally part of the problem. "we mustn't allow the bourgeois to divide the proletariat along racial lines - we're all in this together"

  • female leftists talk about patriarchy, men get uncomfortable and insist that it hurts them too. "this men vs women stuff is reductive anyway - we're all in this together"

  • third world leftists talk about imperialism, americoids get uncomfortable and insist that red white and blue lives matter too. "what happened to the international working class - we're all in this together"

you don't have to invite yourself to every form and experience of oppression. anyone with a baby's consciousness of intersectionality ought to be capable of admitting when they have privilege

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 74 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People really do need to learn when to shut up

[–] raven@hexbear.net 48 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I can't believe we're having this struggle session now involving 3 year old accounts?

How did they keep quiet this long and what made them lose this ability?

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 46 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

i know, im kinda wilding

earnestly waiting, i need to know what brainworms i have that will end with me being banned now

[–] arabiclearner@hexbear.net 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

earnestly waiting, i need to know what brainworms i have that will end with me being banned now

If I had to guess (not for you specifically, but hexbear in general), it would be tone indicators. The last big struggle session that I can think of was whether we should use tone indicators to accomodate neurodivergent people. It actually makes sense to use them in an online forum like this, even for neurotypical people because nuance is lost when one is just reading text straight up. However, I saw a lot of pushback on this sort of thing from users that would normally be all about the "hexbear party line" (so to speak) of things like vegan solidarity, trans solidarity and respecting pronouns, etc. And it's the same line of argumentation that people who were against meat content warnings were using ("what's the big deal?" etc.). So yeah perhaps that's the next frontier.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 35 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

i already have to badger people to do spoiler tags and nsfw tags properly for trauma related content, that is gonna take ages to catch on

i do usually use emojis as a tone indicator a lot of times though 🤔 thats probably not very reliable for a lot of neurodivergent people but maybe some emojis could be made to ease adoption, would have to inform people on hover texts

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

i already have to badger people to do spoiler tags and nsfw tags properly for trauma related content, that is gonna take ages to catch on

You've (correctly) told me to add spoiler tags and NSFW tags on my own posts, and while inconvenient at first, I would not want it any other way because that's better for other people.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago

I think it boiled down to some people being mildly inconvenienced and being asked to modify their behavior for the sake of other people.

Fair-weather comrades until that moment.

[–] raven@hexbear.net 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Shush you're never allowed to leave. I won't let you.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

what is this, a hotel in california? cat-trans

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I love that song. I can't help it. Even with its contextual political baggage. agony-wholesome

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Huh, I had no idea, what's the message of Hotel California?

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 18 points 1 year ago (3 children)

To summarize, it was at the ideological front of the idea of the public mental hospital system being a bad thing (and yes in many ways it was) but that lead to the Reagan-era abolishment of pretty much the entire thing which drove so many people out of that system that many of them became permanently homeless and untreated of numerous mental illnesses... lingering on the streets for decades, some to the present day if they haven't died already.

[–] axont@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had always taken the lyrics to be about a loss of innocence that comes with working in the California entertainment industry. It's all glamorous from the outside but within the residents have become deranged and exploitative.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

That sounds a bit more directly like Iggy Pop's "Butt Town" song.

[–] RNAi@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

WHAT?

For fuck sakes there ain't no good boomer song

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago

"You can check out any time you like but you can never leave... until you can, then you can never check back in. Tough shit. Have fun being homeless." freedom-and-democracy

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Wtf I didn't interpret it that way at all lmao, I thought it was a funny joke about California having nice weather or something which made you not want to leave

I'm too innocent

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I still love the song but the lyrics were directly about being "tricked" into a public mental health institution, the kind that ceased to exist for the most part after Reagan's "reforms."

[–] ped_xing@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That seems like a stretch. I highly doubt public mental health facilities have ever been synonymous with intoxicating opulence.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I highly doubt public mental health facilities have ever been synonymous with intoxicating opulence.

They weren't, but they still existed for those in dire need of a place to stay and access to medication.

They don't have to be "opulent" to be that and closing pretty much all of them left every single person kicked out of them on the street, many of them permanently. That's a little worse than "not opulent."

[–] ped_xing@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Kicking a lot of mentally ill people out onto the streets was an atrocity, no argument from me there.

I'm arguing that Hotel California being about mental hospitals doesn't make sense. There are so many lines that run counter to that interpretation:

There she stood in the doorway

The . . . intake nurse?

Her mind is Tiffany-twisted/She got the Mercedes Benz

Even if the staff can afford some luxuries, it doesn't seem like something they'd discuss with a patient.

They livin' it up at the Hotel California

Said nobody about an inpatient mental health facility ever

Mirrors on the ceiling/The pink champagne on ice

A hazard and contraband that would be immediately removed

And the part that might work,

You can check out any time you like/But you can never leave

really only half works. The "never leave" part works, sure, it was involuntary hospitalization, but how can you explain "check out any time you like?" Letting patients fake a check-out just seems like torture.

[–] TankieCatgirl@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

I always thought it was about drug addiction, specifically in the music industry, which lines up a bit more with the things you pointed out imo. And I heard that checking out was a euphemism for suicide.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm not 100% certain on my take, but some of your attempts to shoot it down are kind of Reddit-tier pedantic. "They livin' it up" can definitely be sarcastic or even medicated altered states of being, for example.

[–] Florist@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't see how he was being pendantic? He was just analyzing the song lyrics to point to another interpretation

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I already gave the example of "livin' it up" being taken so directly and literally that there's a willing refusal to see the possible interpretations of the line as sarcasm regarding the conditions of the people mentioned, or as an altered state of consciousness from psych medications.

[–] TankieCatgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Or, he could be neurodivergent and tends to take things literally. Just because someone interprets something different than you (particularly something as subjective as song lyrics) doesn't mean you have to go straight to insults.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I had no such intention and I find it a stretch to see pedantic behavior as fundamentally neurodivergent.

Saying that saying someone is being pedantic is ableist but then giving a pass to what I said supposedly "not making sense" sounds selective to me, like you already had a chip on your shoulder about this.

This is becoming too heated for me to meaningfully continue it so I need to stop here. It's not worth it over song interpretation.

[–] TankieCatgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sorry if I came off as aggressive, it wasn't intended that way. I myself have been accused of being pedantic about things because of my autistic perspective, but I can agree that being pedantic isn't inherently a neurodivergent thing, I was just trying to give a different perspective. I do have to disagree that saying someone is being "reddit-level pedantic" is comparable to someone saying something doesn't make sense, though.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I appreciate your reply here; I do think the argument about the song lyrics was getting overwhelming for me anyway. I looked up what even the band thought about their own song and the takes are contradictory and even seem to shift a little over time. "It's about dangerous women in weird times," "it's about drugs," and yes, one even suggested it was about a temporary but scary stay one of them had in a mental hospital often associated with the song even if it may not be a perfect fit.

I will reconsider how I phrase that in the future, because I myself don't like when I receive ableistic feedback to something I say, whether it's well intentioned but poorly worded, or just "you are mentally ill" accusations from wreckers and chuds, implying that neurodiversity means inherent badness and contemptible opinions.

[–] TankieCatgirl@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago

I'm pissed off, but unsurprised. I've been seeing this same shit throughout the western white left since I became a leftist.

[–] Sandinband@hexbear.net 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

A lot of these people have been saying the same things for years, if they weren't being transphobic or making jokes about pumpkin spice lattes the mods just let them be and so did the user base