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It's lonely being an adult

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[–] fartdumpster420@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

not really, at least in my situation. i've been married for over 5 years and my partner is absolutely my best friend and i can be my full self with them.

however, i also have a lot of other friends and acquaintances. each of them fills a different role in my life. all of them are unique. my partner doesn't have all of the same interests as me, but my friends all fulfill a different part of my personality that my partner cannot, and they also help support me through difficult times as a team.

it's really essential to have a support system and a wide variety of friends in your life. putting all your eggs in one basket isn't healthy or fair. adulthood can certainly be lonely. i'm approaching 30 and feel it now more than ever as people in my life go down different paths and we have less in common and less time for each other.

it's okay though. there are so many people in the world to connect with. you'll find your people.

[–] Pat12@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

undefined> less time for each other

This is what I mean, it's not a thing you do on purpose that you end up mainly talking to your spouse but all your friends have less time to spend

[–] fartdumpster420@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

i get that. a lot of my friends are working on degrees or starting families. we don't have as much time to hang out anymore. one thing that's helped is expanding my social group. you don't have to be tight with every friend. you can have specific friends/acquaintances for specific hangout sessions. have you tried connecting with local groups to expand your social circle? i'm sure you have some hobbies. these are just examples i've seen in my area:

  • weekly dnd group
  • gardening club
  • walking club
  • bar meetups
  • volunteer trash cleanup
  • board game nights
  • friend speed 'dating'

i'm not sure where you live, but you're bound to find something. facebook is a garbage platform but one thing it's good at is getting you up to date with local events and local groups. don't like facebook? try finding local discord groups.