If divorce required 2party consent, how many people would have been killed? I know I would have, I finally left after my ex held a knife to my throat for saying hi to his mom.

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 31 points 1 year ago

Fuck. I'm glad you're safe and in a better situation!

[–] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 13 points 1 year ago

I read murder actually went down when it got easier to divorce. No idea where though but it seems rational.

[–] zakobjoa@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Soooo, did you hit up the mom after or...

[–] Enigma@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah we still talk, but only because I had 2 kids with her son. She constantly tries to get me to go back to him because and I quote “we can’t handle him when you’re not around.” Yeah no shit, now he’s abusing y’all instead of me. I don’t care if I’m their mom, let one of my kids treat me like that, let alone their spouse? Oh hell no, they got me fucked up. Yet when she found out about why I left she said, again quoted word for word, “well you used to cut yourself so I don’t see the difference.”

She’s grandma though so I allow the kids to VC her from time to time and she’ll send them stuff. I’m not a vindictive person so I won’t allow my relationship with her affect her and the kid’s relationship. Unless she starts talking crazy. I’ve already cut dad out because he started on some bullshit with them.

[–] zakobjoa@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I was so exited for my joke... But seriously, good on you for getting out and maintaining a safe and controlled relationship for your kids.