Being LGBT myself, I have grown increasingly annoyed and distraught at the inclusion of weird marginal gender issues into the fight for gay rights. I'm very sorry, but my country doesn't have a Supreme Court that can just legislate gay marriage. If I ever want to be able to have a family, I need to convince people around me that gay people are normal working people who deserve rights like everyone else.

I am sorry but there is no such thing as non-binary gender. There's no such thing as gender either, there are sexes and then there are cultural expectations built on top of this sexed reality. You can call this gender if you want, but if you do, then the clear progressive and leftwing thing is to do away with gender because gender is a system of exploitation and discrimination. The proper thing to do is not to expand and reify gender.

Oh, you're a boy who isn't into sports and cars? Like dolls and fashion? You must be an egg waiting to crack or at least non-binary.

What if instead we could all be men and women, but be men and women in any way we want to be? Without any expectations, without toxicity, without alienating each other? That's only possible with gender abolition.

[–] EsteeBestee@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

You are not only incorrect, but hypocritical and selfish if you want rights for yourself, but not for other LGBT people who absolutely exist, whether you like it or not. Keep in mind that trans people were side by side with gay people at Stonewall and ever since, always fighting for LGBT equality (never just trans equality), and here you are whining that they want equal rights just like you want.

Gender exists, including non-binary genders. I suggest using some modern sources to catch up on LGBT issues, as you seem to have some unhealthy, and frankly bigoted, views on portions of the LGBT community. I've seen you completely overblow gender issues in some of your comments with awful and ridiculous "examples" ("transfemme demisexual aromantic oceangender individual" and " transmasculine forestgender cat-boychick") and those shitty "examples" do not represent like any transgender or non-cisgender individuals. That's just not what's going on with gender issues at all. Maybe some person online said something like that, but that's about 0.0001% of trans people.

Exactly zero of the non-cis people I know are anywhere close to your examples. They're all just normal people who were born where their gender doesn't match their birth sex.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/359295113_The_Biological_Basis_of_Gender_Incongruence

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6748626/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6830997/

[–] Legendsofanus@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

First of all, I'm really actually asking this cuz I want an opinion on this and because I don't know much.

Do you really think that what you are suggesting could put a decrease on hate crime and discrimination and rape and belittling of all the different people, all of them belonging to different sets including gender and sex?

[–] arf_arf@reddthat.com -3 points 1 year ago

Gender, or at least the current western prevailing idea of gender as something innate (with an internal locus) is an oppressive construct of social control. It prevents social cohesion and solidarity. Because how can I as a white transfemme demisexual aromantic oceangender individual understand your experiences as a black transmasculine forestgender cat-boychick?

Only when we accept the biological reality of two sexes, and the reality of free will and freedom to express ourselves, can we move past sexism and more importantly capitalism.

99.9% of this planet toils in agony so that less than a million of super-privileged people can live in luxury. That's the problem, it's the ONLY problem.