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[–] gilly3@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think it should be considered rape.

Men who pay for sex are the driving force behind human trafficking.

I'm all for freedom, and I will acknowledge that there are probably women in the "sex trade" who were not trafficked or coerced into it, but that number pales in comparison to the number of girls who have been stolen and forced into a horrific life, having lost all control of their future. Freedom is among the most important qualities of human life, and the horror of human trafficking and the way it completely removes all freedom from the lives of its victims trumps the freedom of choosing to sell sex.

Most places, prostitution is illegal, enforced by going after the prostitute and slapping the wrists of the men who use them. I find it immoral and reprehensible that women would be criminalized for this.

Rather, men who make use of sex workers should be ostracized from society and imprisoned as rapists. And the women should be treated with compassion and care, as victims of abuse.

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How do you believe women (and men, and NBs) who willingly go into this line of work should be treated?

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Economic coercion don't real. galaxy-brain

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Economic coercion is a problem in sex work, but it is one that cannot ever be adressed by any policy only targeting conditions around sex work, but exclusively by policies that directly remove the coercive conditions under the rule of capital. No anti-sex work law will remove the fact that people see no choice but entering survival sex work, or migrating from the periphery into the center to work as prostitutes. The only way to prevent that is to end poverty and i know i do not have to explain to you what that entails, we're in agreement on that.

This comment is also not entirely directed at your reply, it's more about the general line of thinking that started this comment chain. I'm not under the impression that most sex workers are abducted victims of human trafficking, that's a line of thinking that is always brough tup by swerfs and never backed up with any evidence, i think that your remark towards economic coercion is much closer to the core problem at play here.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm not disagreeing with your take there. I have no policy ideas to offer myself.

My issue is with the agonizingly bad take of "buying breakfast at the cafe down the road is exactly as exploitative as soliciting (possibly) trafficked people for sex in the Phillipines." libertarian-alert

[–] BuddyTheBeefalo@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

That is true. It is nearly impossible to purchase anything under the current system without someone having been exploited unjustly along the way. That doesn't mean that all such purchases are equally exploiting or that they all must be seen and treated exactly the same way (which under false equivalency arguments, tends to mean "do nothing at all, status quo is fine").

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

We're all victims of economic coercion. Very few would willingly work service or clerical jobs if they didn't need to.

If that's your rubrik, then whatever your opinion of Johns is, it should consistently be applied to anyone who ever buys any product or uses any service.

We all work because we need to get paid to survive. Knowing that, how do you believe those who choose for that work to be sex work should be treated?

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

false equivalency intensifies

Some things that are bad are worse than other things that are bad.

If that's your rubrik

Fuck everything that came after that pretentious sentence starter. I'm not going to humor your dubiously-motivated sophistry.

EDIT:

then whatever your opinion of Johns is, it should consistently be applied to anyone who ever buys any product or uses any service

With that bewilderingly bad false equivalency, you sound like you may be trying to banish a guilty conscience, or if you lack even that, you may be trying to vindicate what you've already paid for regarding economically coerced company. kombucha-disgust

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You’re being an asshole in response to a good faith discussion.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

Believe that if you want, but "buying breakfast at the cafe down the road is exactly as exploitative as soliciting (possibly) trafficked people for sex in the Phillipines" is a horrible take and the pretentious Reddity format it was presented in did not seem good faith to me.

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Guy who refuses to answer the first question asked continues to deflect because he knows there's no logical position he can take that isn't 'I don't like sex workers'.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Guy who refuses to answer the first question

Your "question" was garbage to begin with because you're seriously arguing that all work is only equally harmful and exploitative.

no logical position

I don't see why you need to stan so hard for unregulated sexpat adventures when you're doing a fine job masturbating right there.

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You deflected first by invoking economic coercion. Unless it's your firm belief that there are zero people who would knowingly choose to fuck for money over taking a menial job.

Get better talking points than these sad little ad hominems, they aren't helping you.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You deflected first

That doesn't matter to me whatsoever. You sound like a creepy sexpat using false equivalencies to vindicate your little hobby.

they aren't helping you

Don't say stupid shit like "all work is equally as exploitative."

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Never said they were equally exploitative, just that we all suffer from some level of economic coercion.

What you are doing is what's called strawmanning. It's where you reframe an argument you are unable to counter to a slightly different one that you are able to counter.

I'd say it's beneath you, but it honestly doesn't seem to be.

[–] McCainRBGcreampie@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

you spelt rubric with a k

also, you're a creep

[–] Surface_Detail@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Indeed I did. I'll own up to that mistake.

The rest is projection, I'm afraid. Your should probably spend some time in reflection, but you're not going to.

Get whatever jibe is left in you out of your system and be on your way.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

Get whatever jibe is left in you out of your system

If you got into the habit of doing this before you went outside, you probably wouldn't find yourself compelled to defend such a shitty position.

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

I'm afraid. Your should probably spend some time in reflection

Get whatever jibe is left in you out of your system

You are such an incredibly pretentious creep as well as a liar.

[–] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

Never said they were equally exploitative, just that we all suffer from some level of economic coercion.

You very strongly implied otherwise:

whatever your opinion of Johns is, it should consistently be applied to anyone who ever buys any product or uses any service.

If we play devil's advocate, the strictest denotation of what you are saying allows for the interpretation that one should consider exploitation in all cases, but you are very clearly implying that there is a comparable magnitude. I don't "apply my opinion of" John Wayne Gacy to someone was convicted of a sexual assault charge, because both people are sex criminals (and should be condemned) but the cases are clearly not comparable beyond a statement as generic as that.

Likewise, I don't "apply my opinion of Johns" to someone who bought a bundle of bananas at a grocery store because both people "contributed in some manner to exploitation" but the scale is not remotely similar and also the latter person still needs to eat!

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

Never said they were equally exploitative

If that's your rubrik, then whatever your opinion of Johns is, it should consistently be applied to anyone who ever buys any product or uses any service.

You're a liar and a creep.

[–] usernamesaredifficul@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

someone being forced to work a till is not morally equivicable with being forced to have sex the later is far more intimate a violation

[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

But it's totally not a false equivalency because wall of Reddity sophistry here morshupls