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OP's out there on first dates asking if they have a problem with him doing it...
I can't imagine women are bringing it up
Not necessarily first dates. I just answer truthfully when the topic comes up. I don't want to have it be a problem further down the line
It's just really hard to believe a women asks if you've had sex with a sex worker...
Most people don't ask for numbers, let alone details.
It has unfortunately come up before, hence my aprehension in approaching the topic.
Seems like you got the intended consequence. If you want to be honest and your partner can't handle that honesty, maybe it is better to keep looking. I have a very hard time maintaining lies to continue relationships, and as a result I have very few, but incredibly high-quality friends.
I've been asked that question, and not just one time, so I believe OP that it can sometimes come up.
Maybe because I've never lived somewhere it's legal?
Like if there were brothels in the area, maybe it would be asked more?
Perhaps. It's a legal grey area here, not strictly legal but tolerated in certain areas (red light districts), but it's certainly not a socially acceptable thing.
I ask my partners because I do not want to be with someone who pays for sex. Simply because our views on sex would be very different which leads to problems in the relationship, from my experience. Also, it would be quite dumb to lie on this because than we are both just wasting our time.