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[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 47 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] shapis@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago

Get older.

Working on it.

[–] Nagarjuna@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, for sure, my emotions have all gotten less. Less high, less low, I've just chilled out in every direction

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

To you and @Dr. Wesker , how old are we talking about? Roughly after how many decades this becomes something you notice- and does it keep building up?

I'm in my mid 30s and I can agree I don't feel anywhere as intensely as I did ten years ago, but for me this is a bug, not a feature. So I'm really curious about how others have fared in this regard

[–] heyoni@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sounds like a BS answer, but it's true. My personal experience is that the older I've gotten, the less I'm affected by the world around me. My best guess is the experience of time can lend coping mechanisms, under the proper circumstances I'm sure.

[–] heyoni@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It’s just not actionable. It’s not something you can do.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's a fair take. But I will say that we just grew a little older together, and I'll take your point to heart when dealing with others.

[–] heyoni@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I get the sentiment, but what is it rooted in? Extreme experiences giving you a new perspective making old anxieties feel like nothing. That's just statistics. That's saying that the longer you live, the more likely you are to experience those kinds of things.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 year ago

I don't know, I just live here.

[–] MrMamiya@feddit.de 2 points 1 year ago

It is something you will do though. So you can rest easy on that part. Sometimes the best course of action is to do nothing.