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people should try to stop treating other people badly just because they’re feeling bad (feddit.cl)

submitted 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) by RicoSuave@feddit.cl to c/general@lemmy.world

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not everyone acts like this, but i’ve seen this enough times to be bothered by it.

if i did nothing to you, you don’t have to treat me like crap because you’re miserable. and i won’t talk to people who blow up and can’t control themselves every time something happens. and then some of the same people wonder why im not speaking to them…

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[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Best thing you can do is set a boundary for yourself that when someone speaks abusively, you gently explain in a downward sloping way that you aren't able to engage with them like that and that you need to avoid people and contexts like that. Then walk away and leave things till another day when they can have another shot at it or set your affairs up so they aren't able or allowed to approach you again

Always remember that you cant control their behavior, you can only decide and act on what is for you to follow. If they want to or need to interact with you in subsequent engagements, they will learn to respect that or they wont be able to if you stick by the standards you have set for yourself in how you will engage with people who act abusively.

They have no choice or role here, this is all about your relationship with yourself and what you allow in terms of others conduct towards yourSelf