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How to stop "Fall in love" so easily? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by NONE_dc@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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(It's weird to call it "falling in love", because it's more like a childish and annoying infatuation, but anyway...)

I'm already terrible at socializing, but it's especially difficult for me to create genuine friendships with women because I can't help thinking of them as "possible future partners" (or some bullshit like that) and feel "jealous" when I see them talking to other men. It's stupid, a really stupid and annoying felling.

I know there is something in me that I need to change, but I don't know what, and I need some assistance.

I would like to feel more comfortable with my singleness and reserve my feelings for someone who can really reciprocate, while forging more non-romantic relationships with other people.

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[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago

I find conversation more natural when there is a "thing" we are all doing. Playing cards, bowling, pool, darts, singing kareoke whatever. That way if I start to feel awkward in the conversation I can steer it towards what we're doing and give myself a small talk break.

I start to take 5 psychic damage a second when I'm talking to other people so I need time to regen my HP.