Ok, since you brought up my two short DMs, I'll post them here for public consumption.

I am very much trying to continue the conversation that you started about experiences of gender-based abuse by adding variety of experience from a very different perspective that contrast with the cherry-picked list that you provided of things you read online that resonated with your preconceptions. My examples are cherry-picked from my life; yours are cherry-picked from lemmy.

I am repeatedly echoing the sentiment of your original post: that we need to talk about and understand these things if we want to learn and grow. It's how humans share data.

You claim that I am being dismissive only because the cherry picked examples from my life experience come from an opposite tail of the distribution of gender-based abuse as your list. I can't help where my life experiences lie on this distribution, but I can share them (as you did) to provide some additional data that helps to fill out the range of the population.

You are dismissing me by saying that my experiences must be shared in bad faith to be dismissive/encourage doubt/end conversations. Please re-read my words. They are trying to communicate that I DESPERATELY want a conversation on this topic so that we can all learn and grow from each others' experiences. Just because my experiences are different from yours does not make them bad-faith.

From your behavior, I'm starting to suspect that this is projection and that you are a bad-faith troll who refuses to engage with others if they have different life experiences. However, I don't believe that yet because you and I have had several other conversations in various other comments sections over the past year which have been good and productive and I have grown to like you.

I want a productive conversation on this topic, yet you only seem to want to dismiss my perspective. This runs contrary to our past interactions. Please, I'm trying to have a productive conversation.

That said, the examples you give aren't your personal lived experience as much as extreme examples of sexism that you've stumbled across on this site and curated. The examples that I'm giving are genuine and personal lived experience as a gender minority (neither male or female) rather than things I read online. I don't think that that makes one set of examples more valid than the other, just that these fact make your most recent comment seem highly hypocritical. You are replying to a minority trying to share their experiences and feelings by dismissing me, encouraging others to doubt me, and ending the conversation without engaging with our differences of life experience. Then you accuse me of doing that instead of actually engaging with my perspective. Please reconsider. I'll end this here, but if you want to have an honest and genuine discussion about how to solve the issue of gender-based abuse that you brought up, my DMs are always open.