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Anon has casual sex (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works

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[–] PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat 108 points 3 days ago (6 children)

Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn't get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.

Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you're into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it's not the way.

[–] TheYojimbo@lemmy.world 56 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Thing is, there is not a "way". Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don't like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.

I don't like the "they lied to me" mentality. Brother, they didn't lie, it's just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.

[–] Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works 66 points 3 days ago

I've known people who've wondered if they were asexual because of this, then later realized that pop culture isn't real life.

[–] phdepressed@sh.itjust.works 17 points 2 days ago

It is quite far from the default. That's just a perception issue. Most young adults aren't even having sex much less casual sex. Like sure tinder exists but it is primarily a fwb generator, not a meet someone new to fuck every day (at least for most people).

[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

Capitalism turned it into default by turning dating into a catalogue you could surf from your couch instead of building meaningful connections with people.

In the name of profit

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 7 points 2 days ago

young adult America turned it into the default, when it's not the way.

It’s the same way in europe, I hate it.

[–] pocopene@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Maybe Helen Fisher's work could be of interest to you

https://youtu.be/6wT61wsgfk0