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I sometimes think about how other people have less happy relationships than mine, and that makes me sad for them

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[โ€“] Kacarott@aussie.zone 2 points 19 hours ago

I grew up with divorced parents, and quite a few of my school friends also had divorced parents. It made me quite paranoid about ever getting married, so I made a couple rules:

  1. Live with the person first for a at least a year
  2. Go travelling to another country with them (when I travelled alone I met a lot of people whose relationships had ended during their trip, travel seems to be a good "pressure test")
  3. Make sure that even in the middle of the worst fights, I still wanted to marry the person. That I wasn't just marrying them for the good times.