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Xmas, new year, valentine's... Seems like the festivities are there just to remind me how much I failed as an adult man incapable of getting company. It's been over a decade since I've felt this way and nothing changes.

Alcohol and porn has lost its charm over the years.

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[–] ProteanG6777@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Options to consider: I. Professional company keepers if you can afford it.

II. Keep busy with Work - I use such holidays as free Overtime shift gathering glitch. Workflow seem to be mid anyway, would rather get paid than hanging out at home alone if i can't avoid it.

Pay your self with some type of travel or self-care after this ,holiday vacationers pressure must have subsided by that time anyway.

III.An alternative will be to volunteer at hospitals to keep senior citizens company or foodbanks/ pantry or local community based need. This can be planned ahead in case necessary screening is needed.

IV. You can start a Lemmy4Lemmy holiday company discord or something adjacent to r4r SFW and or NSFW. Beware of sellers and bots though.

[–] daddy32@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I like III. I found that shifting the focus from how miserable one feels because of the circumstances to trying to find out ways to help other people (anyone!) helps to really shift the inner monologue and feelings.

[–] ProteanG6777@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I do agree, Thats my default approach during holidays if i'm a bit jaded to pick up shifts or i'm in a city or town not too welcoming.

[–] daddy32@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Aaah, so those were all your approaches, wink wink ;)