Asklemmy

i hadnt really thought of it until now, and was kind of expecting lemmy/kbin to get infected with porn, but you state some great reasons. i want to be open that i have used porn subs in the past, and i think that porn should 100% be legal. every adult should have the right to express themselves as long as they are not infringing on someone else's rights or safety.

before onlyfans, /r/gonewild was actually pretty appealing. once the amateur porn scene took off, reddit porn subs became advertisements ("check the comments for my onlyfans 😜🍑") and spam bots reposting other people's porn. i really would prefer to avoid that. if someone wants porn, they can go back to reddit or whatever porn dedicated site there is.

btw, i knew a girl who ran one of her own onlyfans-type things. i know it's annecdotal so my one experience isn't representative, but she ruined it for me. that girl was complete trash. she still lived with her parents at 24 years old with no ambition other than to live off of others. she proudly stated this. she didn't work. she had multiple sugar daddies that would financially support her while she would insult them and her customers behind their backs openly to anyone that would listen to her garbage. she had multiple separate ig accounts, each dedicated to a sugar daddy. she would then friend her real friends to show off the "losers" that would support her. the rest of her sisters, while not as bad, were near the same level of toxicity: highly predatory, psychopathically manipulative, and vindictive af. they shared the same social circle that was all the same crap. i fully expect to see at least one of them in the news or jail blotter eventually. i ended up blocking them all on all avenues of communication and recorded me on video telling them that they arent allowed on my property. i also created a highly detailed journal of our interactions, recorded conversations, and kept evidence in case they ever felt like attacking me for setting boundaries.

anyway, in my experience, the persona we see them display on the internet is fake. they're not some horny person just dying for some internet stranger to hook up with. theyre not a victim of the circumstances theyre trying to escape. they don't get turned on by being "slutty" just for you. they get turned on by the power to manipulate others at other's expense. that their real kink: abuse. it becomes disgusting.

again, i know not all online sex workers are this way, and there are certainly the fantastical pornstars and couple's that aren't terrible people but some definitely are horrible and we dont actually know which one is which because the public gets a false presentation of who they really are.

thanks for attending my ted talk. ill have a spicy chicken sandwich pls.