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[–] maniclucky@lemmy.world 19 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (27 children)

Assuming good faith question: The (false) dichotomy of top/bottom implies a power dynamic in which the bottom is subservient to the top. In reality, it's often a simple preference and bottoms can domineer just as well as tops. Some prefer it that way. And there's more than top and bottom. Versatile is the obvious third option (no or changing preference for position) as well as side (prefers non-penetrative sex).

There's this stereotype (may not be the right word) that extends from the above in that tops are more masculine or powerful by virtue of topping, due to the tie with being dominant. Thus bottoms are more feminine and subservient. All of that is false and represents the gay community in a pretty bad, oversimplified, sexist-somewhere-along-the-line way.

The dom/sub axis is not the same as the top/bottom axis (not really an axis).

[–] Trying2KnowMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 4 days ago (2 children)

It’s not just the top/bottom part that’s problematic, it’s the entire post. The punchline is “Trump and Elon are gay for each other, isn’t that funny?” which centers the idea that it would be bad or wrong for them to be gay for each other, perpetuating the conservative stereotype that there’s something wrong with being gay.

[–] enbyecho@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Oh FFS.

We (gay people) have been pointing out the hypocrisy of homophobes with this sort of joke for ages and will continue to do it because it's fucking hilarious. We are, in doing so, celebrating that it's wonderful to be gay and sad that they don't see that or see there at times in-the-closet-like behavior.

The last thing thing I need is a bunch of word police telling me what I can and cannot say.

You know who IS making it seem like there's something wrong with being gay? People like you.

[–] Trying2KnowMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago (12 children)

As a “joke” it treats being gay as derogatory. You’re welcome to make shitty homophobic jokes if you want to.

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[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Nobody's telling you what you can and can't say. They're telling you that what you said is in bad taste, and youre telling them to stop saying that.

[–] enbyecho@lemmy.world 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

LOL. I'm pretty sure saying "that is just homophobia, by the way" is exactly trying to tell people what they can and can't say.

[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I disagree. If someone came up to me and said "Buenos dias! Donde estas el bano?" and I was like "that is Spanish, by the way", I have simply made an observation and have not implied that they aren't allowed to speak Spanish.

[–] enbyecho@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago (20 children)

LOL. And you seriously don't see the difference between "hey that's homophobic" and someone speaking a different language and pointing that out?

Wow. Ok then.

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[–] maniclucky@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

Good call, I missed it. We've got layers of shittiness in this meme.

[–] UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Sure, but the joke here is turning the dumb jokes of the homophobes against them, right? Calling a homophobe "haha u'r gay n a bottom" is kinda using their homophobia against them, no?

Also, I'm gay myself. If someone said "haha, u like taking it up the ass", I would be like, "sure I do!". Say this to a homophobe n they would be incredibly offended. So ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

But sure, I get why the morals of this aren't so straightforward.

[–] maniclucky@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

You aren't wrong. It's rather philosophical at that point. There's the "don't say it because it's shitty angle" (quasi-mine, though mine was more a explanation vs a held belief) vs the "take it back from them" angle. Both have pros/cons and I'm not going to pretend I have the 'perfect' answer. The truth is probably that whichever is more effective/least damaging probably varies by context.

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