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Hey, I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I’ve been down this road and it’s terrible. Have you considered a trade? I never graduated high school, or got my GED, but I’ve had 30 years of a super interesting trade, where I got to do all kinds of things. I work on boats, but maybe you’d like woodwork, or welding? With a trade you generally learn while you’re working so you’re not racking up huge debt, which is a plus. The nice thing about working on boats specifically is every day is different, every boat is different, and each job is like a puzzle. Plus there can be a lot of movement in the trades and if you want to move somewhere else you can. One thing that people say is bad about the trades is that it wrecks your body, which they aren’t totally wrong about. Except that things have changed a lot over the years and safety, proper body posture and movement, and conditions have improved dramatically. I teach at a trade school now and that’s a HUGE part of what I teach. You can have a long and rewarding career in the trades if you make safety a priority from the get go.
I can’t say much about dealing with your family, my solution was a whole lot of distance and some very firm boundaries.
Sorry if this wasn’t super helpful, but sometimes you don’t know what other options are out there. Good luck.
I dont have an interest in most things and despise math. However, being a welder looks a tiny bit interesting to me. Then again, i don't really know. As I said, I have no interest in most things sadly, which I kick myself over. I can handle physical stuff or at least force myself to. (Which I know is wrong). So thanks a lot. I also hope ot be able to move abroad or get into them abroad. I also heard that without a GED/Diploma, you get paid an unfairly amount less.
Sounds like a lot of this stems from you putting too much pressure on yourself to find something to do. I didn't land on what my car was going to be until I went to uni at 21 and realised that I was enjoying the classes. I took a gamble on the course I picked and it worked out.
Sounds like you just need to go on a bit of a discovery journey and just try a load of different things. But don't sweat it, don't pressure yourself into trying to get into each one you try. Just try and go with the flow as much as possible and if something doesn't click, start looking around for the next thing that might catch your eye.
I know it's easier said than done, but I really do feel like a lot of this stems from the expectations you've given yourself (or that others have put onto you). You just need to chill, calm down and relax. It's not going to be the end of the world if you can't find something immediately. There's always another entrance in if you just keep walking around. You'll find the one you fit into eventually.